I am going to be in a wedding for the first time next weekend as a bridesmaid. So far I've gone to all showers (gift for each), gotten my dress/shoes, and have been an open ear to the bride.
First and foremost, The MOH gives off a very strong vibe of disliking me. I'm not sure why because we've only been around each other 3 times at this point, and I am pretty shy. I've been nice but have taken her vibe to keep my distance. She doesn't respond to texts/calls or acknowledge me in person. When bride wanted a 4 day getaway, MOH would never respond to me about budget either. I asked for weeks and eventually bowed out because it would cost too much for me. Plus, I did not want to be stuck with just MOH and bride because they are BFF, and I was mostly asked because I'm family of the groom. Anyway, money is a slight issue for me as of this moment, and I've made that clear.
Well, lo and behold, said trip fell through because none of the bms could afford and/or take time off. MOH decided to buy tickets for us to go somewhere instead without consulting me. It has the potential to be as expensive as the beach trip depending. I found out about this yesterday, and we are apparently going on Saturday. I was really upset when I found out, and I still am. I feel obligated to go because she bought tickets and the bride is marrying into my family (who can be very dramatic about things). I still cannot get in contact with MOH.
Can anyone give me some good advice about how to suck this up? We're going to an amusement park, and I don't ride many roller coasters. I've tried, but something in me just can't do it. Could I reasonably offer to be the bag holder for most of the day? I don't want to get an "express pass" or whatever they are because I do not really want to ride much the park has. Would it look bad if I rejected doing this? Is there a tactful way for me to decline?
I love the bride and feel like I'm in a sticky situation because I'm not necessarily a go-getter in parks. I'm going to try my best to be enthusiastic and ride things I'm comfortable with, of course. I don't want to put a damper on anything.
Also, I've noticed that the MOH got herself, the bride, and another bm a monogrammed shirt for getting ready day of, leaving one bm and I without a shirt. I feel a little awkward about this, but I definitely do not feel entitled to a shirt. Would the best thing to do is ignore this?
This is my first post on the forums, but I've lurked for a little bit. I appreciate any feedback! I just hope I don't come across as being difficult.