rsvp etiquette

hoho0229

Hi,

Just got a wedding invite with a blank formal looking rsvp card.  We will be havin a baby right before the wedding so my husband is planning on going without me since its his friends wedding.  How do i write this in a blank rsvp card.  not sure was proper etiquette here.

NYCMercedes

You can google what to write. We used to write formal responses to wedding invitations before those RSVP cards became acceptable. Apparently your invitation hosts still think the preprinted RSVP cards are gauche.

hoho0229

everything i get in google is just accepting or not accepting...not the halfway in between we are

JaxInBlue

Can you describe the card a little more?  Is it a blank flat card or is it the type with a line and then perhaps a place to select an entree choice?

For the first, if you should right your own response, I would have DH write something to the affect of "Dear Bride and Groom, Thank you for inviting hoho0229 and me to your wedding.  As we anticipate the arrival of Baby H right just before the day, only I will be attending.  Best wishes from both of us.  Sincerely, hoho0229's DH"

For the second, write only his name on the response line and select only his entree.  You or he could then add a note stating that you will be staying home with the new baby and that you (both) wish them the best.

hoho0229

its completely blank

hoho0229

just has the rsvp date on it nothing else

ejpentecost

Mr. Firstname Lastname accepts with pleasure the kind invitation of Mr. and Mrs. First Name LastNameOfWeddingHosts for Whateverday (spell it out), the date (spell it out too) of Month.

for example

Mr. John Smith accepts with pleasure the kind invitation of Mr. and Mrs. Charles Jones for Saturday, the twenty-first of September

April192002

Write ONLY his name accepts with pleasure. I googled "How to respond to a blank wedding RSVP card." I guess if you wanted to write that you regret below that then you could.

http://weddings.answers.com/wedding-planning/miss-manners-wording-your-rsvp-responses

phira

We sent out similar RSVP cards for my Bat Mitzvah.

You can reply really formally: Husband's Name accepts with pleasure. hoho0229 declines with regrets.

Or informally: Congratulations! Husband will be attending, but since our baby is due right before the wedding, hoho0229 will not be coming.