Ok, I've tried to be the bigger person here but I can't do it anymore! The wedding that FI and I will be attending next month is driving me insane!
The couple got engaged shortly after we did last summer and they set their date for late June 2014. In November, we get a mass email from the bride with their wedding video. I'm very excited and watch it without even reading the email. I assumed they changed their minds about the big wedding so I watched their lovely intimate ceremony in a park, with just immediate family attending. I thought it was kinda cool that they recorded it so everyone could still see it. I finish the video and proceed to read the rest of the email; this is just the legal ceremony so don't worry peeps, we're still getting married next summer!
This got an immediate WTF from me as I attempted to pick my jaw up from the floor, but the couple in question are Jewish so (my understanding is) they are not married according to Jewish law. I tried not to get super judgey at this point but it still seemed rather AWish to record the first ceremony if you're having another one. They continued to refer to each other as FI post-legal ceremony.
Moving on to December, we get the StD with their wedding website info. Click on the wedding website and are informed that they want cash for their wedding gift. Also, they request that we RSVP to the StD, which I just find confusing. When we're hanging out with them at a New Year's Eve party the bride expresses confusion that hardly anyone RSVPed. I tried to explain that it was something I had never seen before and was fairly certain that applied to the other guests as well but she basically ignored me.
So, in what I assume is an attempt to get those early RSVPs that she is clearly dying for, they sent their invites out in late January with a mid March reply date. I find this really annoying because with my retail job this means I'm going to have to take a vacation day for their wedding instead of requesting the day off. Since I'm saving up as many days as possible for our wedding/honeymoon this was quite off putting.
But as of last night I have officially lost it with this wedding. This is when she posts photos of her bachelorette party weekend on Facebook! You're already married! You are not a bachelorette anymore! If you wanted a bachelorette party then you should have had one in November!
Any one of these things I could overloook but it's just one after another.
TL;DR Invited to wedding where couple got married last fall and sent a video of said wedding to everyone, asked for cash gifts only, requested RSVPs to the StDs, set response deadline over 3 months before the wedding and had a bachelorette party even those they're already married