I already know I am on the sensitive side since my younger sis got engaged before me and will get married before me. Still under my skin, but there's nothing I can do and her wedding has nothing to do with me and manpanion. But... Sis keeps doing things that I think are downright rude...
She has not asked me to be a bridesmaid. Honestly, she does not have to. I would be just as happy as a guest (and there would be less drama.) of course also, I would be honored if she does want me to stand up for her.
I get a text from a stranger the other night, that is along the lines of "hey! This is (sisters) best friend, just sending a shout to the bridesmaids, or, (sister's) support team! Aren't we all so stoked for this wedding?"
Wait... What? Yes, I've heard of you miss sisters friend, but how did you get my phone number? Am I a bridesmaid since sis didnt fill me in on that one...
I'm trying to cool down before I talk to my sister since she can be a drama queen and a little AW-ish (she accused my mom of talking about her to her finances mom at a part and threw a fit.) I know you ladies are far more level headed than I am right now, so I'm needing some response help. My mom says what I wanted to reply ("hey sis, got a text from your friend, so stoked for the wedding, is it safe to assume for that text that I'm a bridesmaid?") is too snarky.
She's also made manpanion a bit mad since she chose his bday as the wedding date. He prefers his birthdays to be spent wallowing in self pitty.
Now, the wedding date itself I don't see as rude (how would she know? But had she talked to me at all, it might have made a difference, but again, not about me/us) but I am incredibly upset that she gave my phone number to someone without my permission. That's my big issue. I'm also hurt that she hasn't talked to me at all and I had to get this news from a stranger.
Am I in the wrong here? How do I stop this fiasco from ruining my relationship with my sister? (Also terrified of the wording "support team" for her bridesmaids... I know she'll have to do lists if she's already calling us that...) TIA for what I'm sure will be amazing advice.