I am very upset at BF right now. His car is in limbo waiting at a dealership to be repaired, but the insurance company is dragging their feet to pay for it, as I have mentioned many times. So, we only have my car (which is also in the shop, but will be done Friday; we have a rental right now). We work at the same company, but on different teams, so we carpool since we only have 1 vehicle. He is difficult to wake up in the morning, and normally makes us late. However, he can get up early if he has an early meeting, but won't if I tell him that I have an early meeting. It has never been much of a problem, because normally I am just sitting in on meetings and listen. I make sure that he is on time for his meetings if he has an early one.
Last night, I told him I had an important meeting that I needed to be in at 9 am. I knew I would be asked to present, and told him this, and said that we can't be late. He agreed. He would not wake up no matter how many times his alarm went off, and finally was ready to leave at 8:50 am. We live 40 minutes from work. Needless to say I was angry and yelled at him for it, but thought that since I didn't present close to 10 am last time anyways, that if I got there by 9:30, all would be alright. I was wrong today. I was frantically sending emails the whole ride while he drove telling coworkers that I would be in at 9:30 am due to car trouble (little white lie, but if BF had his car it would have been a non issue).
We finally get in, and the meeting has ended. I get yelled at by a coworker for not being there, even though I told another one that I would be in at 9:30 and expected him to relay the message since he asked me, but apparently didn't. The other coworker also told me that a high level manager is upset that I wasn't there either. I had every intention of presenting after 9:30 once I arrived, and did tell the coworker that I emailed that. I had to shut my office door and cry because I was so upset at the whole situation.
I told BF rather harshly that I am leaving at 8 am next week for this meeting with or without him, because I won't have him compromise my job. And if it's without him, he can take public transit in, which takes 2 hours to go one way, or find another way, since I have done him a favor by letting him use my car and carpool with him every day. I am normally not a very bitchy person, but if you push me over the edge (threatening family or getting in the way of my career), I am your worst nightmare. Is it unreasonable of me to make him find his own way to work if he doesn't wake up in time? Is it still too nice? I guess I just don't know how to handle this apart from threatening and following through on taking my car when I need it with or without him in it. I'm so upset over the whole situation, and I honestly don't know what would make me feel better about it so that I don't murder him tonight. (I won't actually commit murder, but I will probably scream at him like I am about to if I don't calm down this afternoon). I have half a mind to take my car tomorrow and every day next week at a time that will get me in when I need to be, and let him figure everything out on his own for the next week or so to prove my point. WWYD?