First of all my dad is paying for my wedding, not my mom since she has never worked. Because of this I am trying very hard to stick to the budget he set.
While I was prepared for my mother to go wedding crazy, I wasn't expecting her to be like this. Literally everything I have picked out she says is ugly, dumb or would look cheap. She laughed at my theme of owls (I have always loved them), she hated my colour scheme moss green and chocolate brown (apparently everyone has done it before), she hated the birdcage centerpieces I wanted (she said they were to rustic for a higher class wedding), she hated the flowers I wanted in my bouquet (she said they all were inexpensive so my bouquet would look cheap), she got mad at me that I ordered the invitations instead of letting her pick them out and chose the wording, she then tells me it is not about what I want its about what she wants so she can show off to her friends.
She has no idea how hard it is to earn the money for the wedding since she has never worked and she keeps adding all these things that don't fit into the budget and when I say no she says my dad 'won't care' which I know he will. I have tried talking to her saying its my wedding, I get to do it once and I want it to feel like my fiancé and I. She always responds with guilt laced answers like 'I only want you to have the best' even if the best isn't what I want. Now she says I have a bad attitude about everything and why aren't I excited about the wedding.
Is it worth her wrath to chose everything behind her back and have the wedding I want, or is it better to just let her do everything since its just a wedding and I get the man I love in the end?