BYO Food, Drink, Chair - Gifts also Expected

arrippa

I think I would be busy that day washing my hair. There is no way I would go and I love going to weddings.

sarahufl said:

No way would I go.

I also have an honest question. At these BYO Chair weddings- where do you get your chair? I live in an apartment. The only chairs I own are not super portable. I don't have space to store beach chairs, etc. So would I have to go out and buy a chair? What kind of chair should I get? Lawn? Beach? Chaise? Do I stop at Walmart on my way and grab one of those Coleman camping chairs? The blow up kind you find in freshman dorms?

Honestly. This is a real question.

I live in a small one bedroom apartment and I own one folding lawn chair (I use it mainly for performances outside, like Shakespeare on the Common or for sitting along the Espanade for he 4th of July). This is the kind that I own. It folds up and fits in my hall closet when I am not using it.

 

kitty8403

sarahufl said:

No way would I go.

I also have an honest question. At these BYO Chair weddings- where do you get your chair? I live in an apartment. The only chairs I own are not super portable. I don't have space to store beach chairs, etc. So would I have to go out and buy a chair? What kind of chair should I get? Lawn? Beach? Chaise? Do I stop at Walmart on my way and grab one of those Coleman camping chairs? The blow up kind you find in freshman dorms?

Honestly. This is a real question.

The one I went to, I brought a camping chair. I do keep metal folding chairs at home though. Edit. Come to think of it, I've been to a couple now where I ended up hauling camp chairs. I need to start being meaner.

For PP who asked where the heck people host events that chairs/benches wouldn't be around: around here weddings on ranches or in state parks/forest service land are pretty common.

sofakingmad

I am sorry, the more I think about this, the less likely I would even entertain going to this shitshow. I am not BYOChair to a wedding. I am not bringing a dish that has to be preapproved or my own drinks. Someone needs to tell this person how rude they are being.

VulgarGirl

I'd go. I wouldn't bring a thing but my charming personality and an etiquette book. And then just stare blankly and say "There's no food or drink? No place to sit? Yes I got the email but I assumed it had to be a joke! No one would plan a wedding so poorly" and make them fucking defend their behavior.

sofakingmad

MagicInk said:

I'd go. I wouldn't bring a thing but my charming personality and an etiquette book. And then just stare blankly and say "There's no food or drink? No place to sit? Yes I got the email but I assumed it had to be a joke! No one would plan a wedding so poorly" and make them fucking defend their behavior.

But then joke is on you because you are chairless, starving and dehydrated.

I would honestly confront them before the event and say what you said.  "I got the email and I figure it's just a joke, but I wanted to make sure before I RSVP'd"  And when they say it's not a joke, then you say, "Oh, I'm sorry, but I won't be able to attend because of XYZ."

I see no reason to subject myself to that BS.  I have much better things to do with my time.  

lyndausvi

I've been to one BYOC(hair) wedding. I was OOT so it was not convenient for me. However it was a casual backyard BBQ, tons of food and booze. So that made up for having to bring a chair. My cousins knew my family were OOT and had extras chairs so it worked out fine. Plus in my family I've never been old enough to get a chair around a table at home family functions anyway.

sofakingmad

lyndausvi said:

I've been to one BYOC(hair) wedding. I was OOT so it was not convenient for me. However it was a casual backyard BBQ, tons of food and booze. So that made up for having to bring a chair. My cousins knew my family were OOT and had extras chairs so it worked out fine. Plus in my family I've never been old enough to get a chair around a table at home family functions anyway.

And that's another thing.  If you are from OOT, how are you expected to bring all of this.

I mean, I'm glad it worked out for you Lynda, but I'm very offended by this.

jdluvr06

I went to a wedding like this. There was one big difference though. The venue the wedding was suppose to be at caught fire so it had to be moved to someone's back yard at the last minute and no one was asked to be bring anything we all volunteered because we knew how important that date was to the couple.

sarahufl

jdluvr06 said:

I went to a wedding like this. There was one big difference though. The venue the wedding was suppose to be at caught fire so it had to be moved to someone's back yard at the last minute and no one was asked to be bring anything we all volunteered because we knew how important that date was to the couple.

That is less of a problem. All this other stuff is just BS. If my friend's venue burned down and they had no other options, you bet your ass I would be there- cooking, pitching in, whatever it took. But to purposefully PLAN this is just beyond me.

lyndausvi

DragonBlood13 said:

lyndausvi said:

I've been to one BYOC(hair) wedding. I was OOT so it was not convenient for me. However it was a casual backyard BBQ, tons of food and booze. So that made up for having to bring a chair. My cousins knew my family were OOT and had extras chairs so it worked out fine. Plus in my family I've never been old enough to get a chair around a table at home family functions anyway.

And that's another thing.  If you are from OOT, how are you expected to bring all of this.

I mean, I'm glad it worked out for you Lynda, but I'm very offended by this.

*** SIB

 Yeah, it was side-eye worthy. They did have great food and free booze so overall it wasn't too bad.     Since it was only family and they knew we OOT them and other cousins brought extras.      

Chairs, booze, food and gift?  Hell to the no.

KatieinBkln

This shit is crazy. Going to a wedding =/= going camping. Both are fun, but ne'er the twain should meet.

Chipmunk415

Evil Chipmunk would probably show up... with a collapsible chair with attached table to hold her delicious steak (courtesy of Dh) and sides. She would have just enough for herself, but next to her would be a shitton of happy meals, (for the kids, shes not totally heartless) and popcorn to sit back and watch this mess unfold.

offensivekitten2

KatieinBkln said:

This shit is crazy. Going to a wedding =/= going camping. Both are fun, but ne'er the twain should meet.

This makes me wonder if the archives still have the thread where a lady had rented a boyscout campground for her wedding, and literally expected her guests to camp overnight before the ceremony. I believe her reason for posting was that she was worried she'd have to share a shelter on her wedding night.

Emmy1493

Uhhgg. I saw a chick on FB who sent out FB statuses about her wedding, and reception. The reception party was to be a week after said wedding and SURPRISE it's a potluck. BYOB. You.Name.It. Oh, it's also a gender reveal party for their baby too..even though I am pretty sure they announced the gender week before last. "So, hey, here is your new set of pots, oh and a three piece for your little one". I don't mean to offend, but why not take it one step at a time? Have your wedding...and shower/baby stuff after.

thisismynickname2

I'm not encouraging this by any means, but for the love of God, if you EVER plan a potluck, create a freaking Google Doc and share the list with your guests so they can sign up and say, "whoa, can't bring more watermelon or potato salad, darn!" Also, bringing chairs, drinks, and food sounds like a night a Ravinia to watch a concert, not a wedding. Let's not mix our events here people.