"How to Tell Guests About a Cash Bar" WB Thread

doeydo

I'm so close to just saying fuck it.


Anyone have any fighting spirit in them?

ETA    http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-tell-guest-about-cash-bar/#axzz33h3S9UoE

beethery

A response to that thread was: "I guess you could say ‘beer and soda provided, other drinks available for purchase?’" I don't even think I can do life right now. Yup, put that on your invitations. Go right ahead. At least everyone who shows up won't be SURPRISED.

JCbride2015

I almost gave up here: "What about in the bottom corner of the invitation?  People put 'black tie' there so you could put 'cash bar.'"

But then I really gave up here: "But it’s your decision on what you want, so don’t worry about anything ppl say. Booze is expensive!"

VulgarGirl

No one suggested a cute poem? I'd do a cute poem. Cute poems cover all sins.

pinkcow13

Nothing pisses me off more than going to a wedding and finding out there's a cash bar. 

VulgarGirl

pinkcow13 said:

Nothing pisses me off more than going to a wedding and finding out there's a cash bar. 

That's why she's letting people know on the invite. So you can anticipate the rudeness.

lyndausvi

If I was on the fence on going (i.e. extended family or friends) noting a cash bar on the invite would make the decision for me. 

wandajune6

This sounds like the kind of wedding that I'd need alcohol for. If I had to go, it would be worth the money to be fully loaded.

LadyMillil

In my hometown cash bars are the norm. It is always listed on the bottom of the invitation.

LDay2014

I give up...@doeydo I tried.
I just can't

larrygaga

My response to cash bars: 

1. Use cash gift to pay for alcohol.

2. There! My gift was that I helped pay for your wedding! You are so welcome!

I've been to too many weddings with cash bars or lack of food and no thank you note, so I always bring a cash gift and keep it in my purse until after dinner. Then I put it in the card box.

Am I evil? I think I'm evil. 

VulgarGirl

larrygaga said:

My response to cash bars: 

1. Use cash gift to pay for alcohol.

2. There! My gift was that I helped pay for your wedding! You are so welcome!

I've been to too many weddings with cash bars or lack of food and no thank you note, so I always bring a cash gift and keep it in my purse until after dinner. Then I put it in the card box.

Am I evil? I think I'm evil. 

I vote brilliant.

LadyMillil

larrygaga said:

My response to cash bars: 

1. Use cash gift to pay for alcohol.

2. There! My gift was that I helped pay for your wedding! You are so welcome!

I've been to too many weddings with cash bars or lack of food and no thank you note, so I always bring a cash gift and keep it in my purse until after dinner. Then I put it in the card box.

Am I evil? I think I'm evil. 

My ex used to do something like this. He would only give cash at weddings. He would go to the wedding with exactly $200 in cash. Any time he needed to open his wallet he used that money. If there wasn't enough food and he had to hit up a drive through on the way home, he'd keep $20. Whatever was left at the end of the night he put in the card.

LondonLisa

Who are all these chavy UK brides saying cash bars and honeymoon registries are the norm?! Definitely not the case!! Please don't think we are that rude this side of the pond

larrygaga

LondonLisa said:

Who are all these chavy UK brides saying cash bars and honeymoon registries are the norm?! Definitely not the case!! Please don't think we are that rude this side of the pond

I'm just waiting for stupid american brides to think cash bars are chic because they think they do it in europe. 

LDay2014

LondonLisa said:

Who are all these chavy UK brides saying cash bars and honeymoon registries are the norm?! Definitely not the case!! Please don't think we are that rude this side of the pond

THANK YOU!

I was starting to think it was...

Emmy1493

I mean, the way I look at it if she puts it on the invites, it will give everyone a heads up so they can avoid that horrible train wreck of a wedding, right? ;D

doeydo

You put up a good fight, @LDay2014

themuffinman16

It's our day
we will do what we please
We are having a cash bar
To offset the fees
Of our elaborate wedding
We are forcing you to host
If you don't like it
You don't love us the most
We lack good manners
No one should care
They haven't said it to our face
RSVP yes, if you dare

CMGragain

My daughter went to a wedding last weekend, and she was surprised when the bartender told her that mixed drinks were $8.  Later in the evening, her DH mentioned it to the groom, and the groom said "WTF?!"  Someone had misinformed the bartender.  It was supposed to be full open bar, and the bride and groom were paying for it!  A few minutes later, the DJ made an apologetic announcement, and drinks were on the house.  I imagine a financial refund will be made later!

ashley8918

CMGragain said:

My daughter went to a wedding last weekend, and she was surprised when the bartender told her that mixed drinks were $8.  Later in the evening, her DH mentioned it to the groom, and the groom said "WTF?!"  Someone had misinformed the bartender.  It was supposed to be full open bar, and the bride and groom were paying for it!  A few minutes later, the DJ made an apologetic announcement, and drinks were on the house.  I imagine a financial refund will be made later!

OMG, how awful! I would be terribly embarrassed if this were my wedding.

lc07

CMGragain said:

My daughter went to a wedding last weekend, and she was surprised when the bartender told her that mixed drinks were $8.  Later in the evening, her DH mentioned it to the groom, and the groom said "WTF?!"  Someone had misinformed the bartender.  It was supposed to be full open bar, and the bride and groom were paying for it!  A few minutes later, the DJ made an apologetic announcement, and drinks were on the house.  I imagine a financial refund will be made later!

SITDB:

I WOULD BE SO PISSED!!! 

EDITED: (If I were the couple hosting the wedding)

LDay2014

@doeydo

Booze Bully? Really? Nothing says bully like 'you don't have to have it if you can't afford it'...FML

VulgarGirl

Wait WB closes threads if you aren't patting an ADULT on the back and telling her her shitty rude plan is both shitty and rude? Note to self: stay the hell off of there.

JCbride2015

Is Mrs. Mouse a mod?  Because seriously, the whole "OP wasn't asking for a debate about etiquette, she wanted advice for how to word her invitation" thing sounds just like a whiny SS on here.  No wonder posters come over from other sites and get butthurt when we comment on their etiquette.

VulgarGirl

JCbride2015 said:

Is Mrs. Mouse a mod?  Because seriously, the whole "OP wasn't asking for a debate about etiquette, she wanted advice for how to word her invitation" thing sounds just like a whiny SS on here.  No wonder posters come over from other sites and get butthurt when we comment on their etiquette.

You can't tell a BRIDE she's wrong. She can't handle it! It's not like brides are grown ups or anything. They're small children who have to be patted on the head and told that yes, their crazy wedding plans are perfectly fine and their crayon drawings should hang in art galleries and they are just fantastic. Because Brides are STRESSED and can't handle someone disagreeing with them. on Anything. Ever. If they say the sky is green, then it is green damn it.

beethery

MagicInk said:

You can't tell a BRIDE she's wrong. She can't handle it! It's not like brides are grown ups or anything. They're small children who have to be patted on the head and told that yes, their crazy wedding plans are perfectly fine and their crayon drawings should hang in art galleries and they are just fantastic. Because Brides are STRESSED and can't handle someone disagreeing with them. on Anything. Ever. If they say the sky is green, then it is green damn it.

I'm fucking dying. Please tell FI I loved him hahahahahahahahaha

JCbride2015

MagicInk said: JCbride2015 said: Is Mrs. Mouse a mod?  Because seriously, the whole "OP wasn't asking for a debate about etiquette, she wanted advice for how to word her invitation" thing sounds just like a whiny SS on here.  No wonder posters come over from other sites and get butthurt when we comment on their etiquette. You can't tell a BRIDE she's wrong. She can't handle it! It's not like brides are grown ups or anything. They're small children who have to be patted on the head and told that yes, their crazy wedding plans are perfectly fine and their crayon drawings should hang in art galleries and they are just fantastic. Because Brides are STRESSED and can't handle someone disagreeing with them. on Anything. Ever. If they say the sky is green, then it is green damn it.

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But that's her truth.

grumbledore

"Im having a cash bar as well and was a little perturbed based on some previous posters posters’ comments.  It sounds as though you’re saying if we cant afford to supply alcohol,  we shouldn’t have a wedding. 

Read more: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-tell-guest-about-cash-bar/#ixzz33ncTzPLJ"

Riiiiiiight.  Because no cash bar = no wedding.  What the actual fuck.

tcnoble

It's scary thinking how different my wedding planning may be going if I had ended up on WB instead of Tk.... Really scary.

JCbride2015

tcnoble said:

It's scary thinking how different my wedding planning may be going if I had ended up on WB instead of Tk.... Really scary.

I know, right?  I'm not even sure I made a conscious decision about which site to use.  TK was the biggest, and I liked the tough-shit vibe on the forums, so I stayed.  I didn't even know WB and WW were a thing until I read all the TK snark about them.