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Help! Planning vow renewal in 2 months!

edited June 2014 in Chit Chat
So hubby and I decided SUUPER last minute that we would do our vow renewal ceremony and reception in August because we will be married for 5 years. I"ll spare you all the details but when we were married we had zero money and didn't even go to church. Fast forward 5 years and we belong to an amazing church , have great friends and want to have a celebration. The good news is that we found a caterer and venue that work together and have a date that works for us available! It would be Sunday the 17th . ... SO we are in the early stages of coming up with a list of about 100 people. We haven't signed on with the caterer/venue just yet because we hit a few snags... 1st thing is that we have about 4 OOT guests ( too short notice for them maybe) and Second: Hubby and I both have like 60 cousins in the 2-17 year range.  yeah we don't think we can have a reception with more than half of guests being kids...... I was totally on board on calling it an "adult only reception" but my mother says that many of my aunts will be offended and wouldn't show up ( It must be a Mexican thing) Seriously all the Mexican weddings I have been to there are always younger people. I seriously would love to invite them all. They don't bother or annoy me in any way I just seriously cannot afford it......   So all that aside I found a cheap $200 dress from Davids bridal , I'm making my own arrangements , my close friend is a professional photographer so I don't have much else to worry about right??

Re: Help! Planning vow renewal in 2 months!

  • beachyone15beachyone15 member
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    edited June 2014
    Yikes, tight timeline. But it's just a vow renewal, correct?


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  • So hubby and I decided SUUPER last minute that we would do our vow renewal ceremony and reception in August because we will be married for 5 years. I"ll spare you all the details but when we were married we had zero money and didn't even go to church. Fast forward 5 years and we belong to an amazing church , have great friends and want to have a celebration. The good news is that we found a caterer and venue that work together and have a date that works for us available! It would be Sunday the 17th . ... SO we are in the early stages of coming up with a list of about 100 people. We haven't signed on with the caterer/venue just yet because we hit a few snags... 1st thing is that we have about 4 OOT guests ( too short notice for them maybe) and Second: Hubby and I both have like 60 cousins in the 2-17 year range.  yeah we don't think we can have a reception with more than half of guests being kids...... I was totally on board on calling it an "adult only reception" but my mother says that many of my aunts will be offended and wouldn't show up ( It must be a Mexican thing) Seriously all the Mexican weddings I have been to there are always younger people. I seriously would love to invite them all. They don't bother or annoy me in any way I just seriously cannot afford it......   So all that aside I found a cheap $200 dress from Davids bridal , I'm making my own arrangements , my close friend is a professional photographer so I don't have much else to worry about right??
    This is a 5 year vow renewal, correct?  So why are you "Planning a wedding in 2 months?"

    Really ask yourself why you are having the vow renewal.  Is it because you want a wedding-type party, or is it because you want to quietly reaffirm your vows with your husband in your new church?

    A big blow-out party, with all the trappings of a wedding, would be very against etiquette.  Please reconsider your plans.  If you want to have a quiet vow renewal in your new church, go ahead.  But a blowout re-do of your wedding would be extremely inappropriate.

    PS: "Adults only reception" is tacky.  Don't say that anywhere on your invites or weddingPPD website.
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  • Sorry I should have named it vow renewal ceremony :) I am doing it to reaffirm our love in Christ because our faith plays a huge role in our lives now. We thought since its 5 years it would be nice to do it around the same day. I don't plan on wearing a veil or even having a tiered cake. I just want our Pastor that we know and love dearly to perform a ceremony for us. I wouldn't call this a "re do" more like a 5 year anniversary party with vow renewals.  

  • We are planning on having the ceremony inside our church but wanted our guests to join us for a small reception/ party after :)
  • Yes :) I shouldn't have called it a wedding oops
  • Sorry I should have named it vow renewal ceremony :) I am doing it to reaffirm our love in Christ because our faith plays a huge role in our lives now. We thought since its 5 years it would be nice to do it around the same day. I don't plan on wearing a veil or even having a tiered cake. I just want our Pastor that we know and love dearly to perform a ceremony for us. I wouldn't call this a "re do" more like a 5 year anniversary party with vow renewals.  

    So, I think this is a fine line to walk.  Put the emphasis on your faith and don't make it feel like a wedding.  That means as you said, no veil (really, a white dress would get the side-eye from a lot of people), no "introduction as husband and wife," no first dance, no bouquet throwing, no wedding party.  Just have your vows at church and then a party after.
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited June 2014
    Here is a good Vow Renewal Etiquette site.  It does say that Vow Renewals are NOT second weddings.  I hope you have a meaningful ceremony.  Remember - do not use the words "wedding, bride or groom" when talking about your plans

    .http://www.idotaketwo.com/vow_renewal_etiquette.html






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    So, I think this is a fine line to walk.  Put the emphasis on your faith and don't make it feel like a wedding.  That means as you said, no veil (really, a white dress would get the side-eye from a lot of people), no "introduction as husband and wife," no first dance, no bouquet throwing, no wedding party.  Just have your vows at church and then a party after.

    I completely agree with all of this minus the dress thing. The one I like is a white short summery dress. Knee length and could pretty much be worn out to any other function. I feel like its not an over the top " look at me" dress.
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