I bought my dress almost a year before our wedding because
my Grandma wanted to come shopping with me, which meant we would need a long
weekend, so we went shopping over Memorial Day weekend.
We went to an off-the-rack bridal store and I tried on about
12 dresses, and there were 3 that I liked but they all had things that I just
didn’t love about them. The first one I tried was great but I didn’t love it
that much. My grandma kept pushing me toward that dress and insisting that I
put it back on after I had tried some other dresses. The second time I put on
the dress I liked it better, because the sales lady clipped it a little looser
than she did the first time. The third time I tried it (at grandma's insistence) I wore a bra and didn't have it clipped, which made the fit much more flattering. I really loved it when I saw it that way, and felt hopeful that a seamstress could make it even better.
There was surprisingly little pressure from the sales lady,
but my grandma kept telling me how much she loved the dress. I wanted to take
some pictures and then think about it for a couple of days or get another
person to come look with us. But they told me it was the only one of its kind
left (this store designs all their own dresses) and they couldn’t hold it for
me, so there was good chance it wouldn’t be there when I came back. I really do
like the dress, and I was so happy about it in the store, but I gave in to the
fear that it would be gone if I continued to search for another dress that I
loved more. So I bought it, I was absolutely giddy and thrilled about it.
But the more I think about it, the more I feel like I made
the wrong choice and I wish I had looked more. My dress is unique, and I keep seeing
pictures of my friends getting married in their more trendy (lacy mermaid
style) dresses and I think, DAMN, that’s what I want. Either that, or something
simple and inexpensive like the ones from modcloth or BLDHN. I also worry that
I won’t be able to get into shape well enough to look good in this dress or I’ll
have to wear some REALLY uncomfortable undergarments to make it work. I’m
trying to avoid looking at other dresses, and I keep looking at the pictures of
me in my dress to remind me of how much I liked it in the store, but it’s just
this nagging feeling of disappointment. I sunk my entire dress budget into it
and I can’t return it. I don’t think I could sell it for much because it’s a
unique style.
TLDR: I bought a dress that I thought I really liked in the store, but
now I feel kind of pressured into that decision and am questioning whether I
really like it that much, and wishing I had chosen a totally different style.
But I’m stuck with it.
Is this normal? Did any of you ladies feel this way about
your dress? How did you handle it? I know I’m perpetually indecisive and
committing to anything a year in advance is just asking for trouble, but I am
really feeling crappy about it.