I'm just too logical for romantic movies.

JennyColada

The Notebook is on TV. Honesty, while watching this movie, my main thought is "she is horribly abusive." Next I'm just thinking about how dumb I think they are for falling into each other's arms without discussing long-term things like goals: I mean, what is one of them really wants kids and the other one doesn't?! You can't just randomly pick a partner like that and have it turn out well (a common theme in most romantic movies).

Thusly, I find most of these movies pretty unenjoyable and awkward.

Not to even mention that in The Notebook the nurse at the end should totally be fired for malpractice as she leaves her patients unattended and they up and DIE. Seriously. Sued to no end.

LDay2014

haha, FI often tells me I'm 'vulcan'

JennyColada

LDay2014 said:

haha, FI often tells me I'm 'vulcan'

My old roommates used to watch The Notebook every time it was on, and when I was the only one not crying at the end (and first brought up the idea of "This would NEVER happen because that nurse should be FIRED!") they told me that I had no heart.

*Shrugs*

I am a sap for A Walk to Remember, even if I think it's silly though.

monkeysip

Ugh, I hate that movie.

I don't care how "in love" they are... she cheats on her fiancé.  No excuse!

I did think the alzheimers storyline was sweet, but their love story when they're young is just not even really love to me at all.  Just two dumb teenagers who become infatuated over one summer.  And I can say that as someone who married her high school sweetheart.  We didn't marry until we had done A LOT of maturing.

Most romantic movies suffer from these problems, but some I can just believe better than others.  

HaileyDancingbear

I haven't watched it in ages (So forgive me for my complete vagueness) But I remember watching and thinking the guy was kind of an ass to the girl.  "Oh I'm mad you're not falling in love with me fast enough, I'm just gonna yell at you and make you feel bad."  Yeah, great, ok.  

Senecaf

I have that trouble too. I can't get past the naiveté. I honestly thought for a while i was the only person that hated The Notebook.

CMGragain

My problem with both romance novels and movies is that I usually don't agree with the outcome.I  I usually think the girl should have chosen the other guy.  The only part I really liked about  The Notebook  was when the mother insisted that her daughter come and look at the man she had been "in love" with in her own youth.  I could really identify with that.
                  

bethsmiles

I hate the Notebook! 

If you want a romance that's more realistic you should try "Like Crazy" My friends recommended it and I really liked it, I felt it was more realistic as to the issues a couple who has a movie romance type love would face after the honeymoon phase fades away and life happens.

JCbride2015

I also enjoyed "Like Crazy!" I have a hard time buying into most romantic movies. Things just aren't that way in real life.

grumbledore

Eh I have a huge capacity for suspension of disbelief with romance movies.

However my favorite is Hope Springs which requires little of it.

phira

I've never seen The Notebook. I feel like a lot of romance movies are either entirely unrealistic about love, speed it up too much, focus too much on getting together than staying together, or a combination of two or all three. Like, no, they're not going to fall in love LIKE THAT QUICKLY. And no, it's not a sign that they love each other because they're fighting all the time. And okay yay, they kissed and they're finally in a relationship but wait that's the end of the movie?

KytchynWitche

I, too, hate The Notebook. It's insipid. I don't hate all romances though, and I'm a pretty big fan of rom-coms (because I can put them on while I'm working on other stuff and not have to actually concentrate). But I also get that a lot of people can't tell the difference between film and real life (seriously, one of our local soap actresses was attacked in a supermarket a couple years back because of something her character was doing in the show), and that screws things up in their heads as to their expectations of love and relationships. I know a lot of girls who let fantastic relationships go bad because they wanted the Grand Gesture. I know a lot of guys who let great girls get away because they thought the Last Minute Declaration would win out over actually working at the relationship. I do have issues switching my brain off though, and if the errors/impossibilities are too glaring, I get stuck and can't move past that part. FI HATES watching action movies with me, because they're the biggest culprits when it comes to messed-up physics. I don't have the same issues in sci-fi, fantasy, superhero, or parody films because they clearly do not operate under the same physical/scientific laws as we do. When I was still living at home, my mom was constantly saying "Don't spoil a good story with facts!" ETA: TK ate my paragraphs again

buttercup1958

KytchynWitche Thats one of mine and Vs things we like to do together! We like watching movies and pointing out all the scientific wrongness of said movie. Our last victim was the new Godzilla movie. With romance movies I think I'm a bit all over the place. My main favorites are 10 Things I hate About You, Pride and Prejudice, and 500 days of summer. I feel like those are somewhat realistic.

JennyColada

I really enjoy stupid horror movies like Paranormal Activity. My ex ruined it for me by pointing out that the "ghosts" were doing things that the characters couldn't even see, so it was only to scare the audience. And "why wouldn't they just kill them on first go? What's the point in the buildup if not just to spook the audience?"

buttercup1958

That's dumb! I expect things not to make sense in a horror movie. Your ex was just a jerkwad. Plus it wouldn't really make movie if everyone was killed in the first 5 mins.

jdluvr06

I'm in the minority here. I liked The Notebook because it is based on the true story of Nicolas Spark's in-laws. I think it is sweet that he wrote a book to commorate them. J

pinkcow13

I'll admit, I love the notebook. I sob like a baby when I watch it. And @jdluvr06‌, I had no idea they it was based on his inlaws! Personally, I feel like when I watch romance movies, it's an escape. I turn my
Brain off, and don't think about the details, so I get totally caught up into the movies. I guess I can be a girly girl sometimes lol.

Angusaur

I love all the cheesy romantic movies all for the same reasons I love horror movies. They're unrealistic but still fun to watch. I totally get these things wouldn't happen in real life. I still like the kiss in the rain with the dramatic music and the girl who gets her dream guy in the end. Even though real life for me is having a beer on the couch with FI while we laugh at bad singers on America's got talent. And I'm OK with that.

climbingsingle

What bothered me the most about The Notebook is that I didn't "believe" their love. I don't know. Maybe it just didn't translate from the screen for me.

emmaaa

Not a fan of The Notebook. I don't mind most romance movies but this one just really ended up pissing me off the entire time.

ladyamanuet

I am not a fan of rom-coms for similar reasons as stated above - it's almost always about getting together, not staying together.  I'd rather see a romantic movie about that, but usually movies that take place later in a relationship are about the relationship ending...

ElcaB

Unpopular opinion: I love The Notebook. I don't think it's unrealistic for two teenagers to go za-za-zoom for each other in such a short time --- I've been there, done that. 

Also, her wardrobe in that movie = SO pretty!

ETA: Rachel McAdams' red hair FTW!