Can I please have some reassurance about my dress?

Chrissy213

Hi ladies, I am new here and probably sounding quite desperate, I apologize. I really need some reassurance on my dress choice. My wedding is less than 3 weeks away and I posted my dress on another site and got some really negative feedback and I am feeling pretty bummed My own fault I suppose, but nevertheless, please assure me that I do not need to run around or drive myself crazy thinking about a new dress.. I know ballgown is not everyone's style, but does this look good on me? I am having it currently taken in, as I have lost about 10 lbs since this pic. I also ordered a smaller hoop for under the dress to reduce the poofiness a bit.

My question to you all.. what about my veil? (if you can even see it)
 Is it too much for my dress? I was thinking perhaps something plainer or even longer (without the bling) to better compliment the dress?

I do ask for honestly, but at the same time I am not sure how much more negativity I can take
Thank you guys

ShesSoCold

I think both the dress and the veil are beautiful!! The veil matches the dress really really well and I love the detail on both.

I can't imagine people saying negative things...?! Sure a ball gown isn't everyone's cup of tea but it doesn't need to be. YOU're wearing the dress. This is one of the few (very few) times in wedding planning were I say to fuck everyone else's opinions and wear whatever the hell you want.

have you seen the way the dress looks with the smaller hoop? I kind of like the poofyness and it may look kind of...flat without the poof. Just my two cents and if you like it with the smaller hoop - go for it.  

emmyg65

Who the hell is saying negative things? I can't even imagine what one could say that's negative. That dress is gorgeous!! It looks really pretty on you, and the veil looks nice with it. Go forth and get married!

melbenso

The veil is beautiful with the dress. And the dress really flatters your shape. You look lovely.

Dignity100

I think the dress suits your figure nicely and is a pretty dress!! The veil goes well with it.

As far as the poofiness - I think it balances you out (at least from the picture).  If the dress was sheath style, I think you'd look a little top heavy.

Maggie0829

Do you love your dress?  Forget all of the negative things that you have been told, in the end do you love your dress?  Because that is all that matters.  Is a tulle ballgown my style?  No, but it doesn't have to be.  I am sure that there were people who didn't like my dress because it wasn't their style.  But I didn't care because I loved my dress and it made me feel gorgeous.  And that is what matters.  If you feel beautiful and you love your dress then fuck everyone else

As for the veil and the dress together, they are perfect together.

NYCMercedes

The dress and veil and you are beautiful.

beachyone15

You look beautiful in that dress!

lleblanc33

You look like a princess!!! Keep it- you are just having an old case of dress nerves. You will get tons of compliments on your wedding day!

climbingsingle

I think it looks fantastic. 

cupcait927

You look absolutely lovely in your dress! I also think it has just the right amount of poof too. You are going to look stunning on your wedding and I can't imagine why anyone would be giving you negative feedback.

emz101

In my experience it seems that there will always be people who feel they can say rude and negative thing because they are hidden behind a computer. Just remember nobody knows your situation and ignore any negative comments. You look fantastic in both the veil and dress, and all that matters is if you feel good in it. It's your day, you get to do it once so enjoy it.

doeydo

Honestly, if you love the dress then you will look beautiful no matter what.  But, if you truly doubt it and want a different dress, then I say go buy a used or sample gown that you will not regret wearing.  

AddieCake

You look great!

wandajune6

You look beautiful. Why bother changing anything that makes you happy?

As for people saying mean things, fuck 'em.

jrpownall

WOW!!  I think the dress looks absolutely beautiful!  The veil looks great, too, I think it matches perfect.  Fuck the people who said negative things, whoever does that is a terrible person.  You don't tell a bride she made the wrong dress choice 3 weeks before the wedding!

Seriously, your dress looks stunning!  I totally did not see myself as a ballgown person either, I was thinking simple, A-line, and guess what I'm wearing--ballgown with a tulle skirt!

Jess

Knottie37373131

I think you look gorgeous in that dress! The veil is also very nice. 

flyingfoxes

I can't imagine what people are saying that could be negative about that dress!  It's very pretty and you look great in it.  I love the way the veil matches it perfectly too. 

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I love the entire outfit & you look great. Don't worry about what others say, you look wonderful & will be stunning on your wedding day.

princessleia22

Like others said, it looks gorgeous and I wouldn't change a thing.  And I think that veil is a perfect compliment to that dress.

Everyone has different styles and tastes.  Honestly, I can't stand the tight mermaid style dresses that are so popular today.  But, a lot of other people LOVE them. My sister and I are both getting married this summer.  I picked a pretty traditional silhouette and went with an organza A-line with ruching.  It suits my personality, looks great on me, and I love it.  My sister went with a tight satin mermaid gown that I wouldn't be caught dead in.  If I saw it on the rack, I would immediately think "oh, hell no, yuck", but it suits her style and looks great on her.  Many people have moved away from the larger, traditional gowns into tighter ones, and there isn't anything wrong with either style.  It's all just a matter of personal style and taste.  But, if you love your dress, don't let other people's style preferences (especially strangers online) change your mind because everyone is different and you have a right to your own opinion and preferences. 

Chrissy213

Wow, I have to say that reading these posts made me tear up a bit.. thank you all so much for your kind words, I truly needed them at this moment. I do love the dress and you're all right, that is what matters.. it is crazy what stress and nerves can do to your own self esteem. I really appreciate it and I truly was not trying to fish for compliments, I just needed some sort of boost from unbiased people (of course my mom and sisters say I look beautiful, that's their job)! I cannot say thank you enough, I wish you all the best!!

ShesSoCold

I've been having dress regret and I keep telling myself that sure, there might be a better dress for me out there somewhere, but the dress I'm wearing will be the only wedding gown at our wedding so it will be the most beautiful dress. It's not like there will be two or three clones of me wearing different dresses and one will look better than my dress. KWIM?

[Deleted User]

I agree with all of the comments above! The veil goes so well with your dress and it definitely flatters you. It is not a boring or "safe" dress which I think is great. There might be people who love it and others who don't but as long as you feel beautiful in it, that's what counts.   I consider myself to be very picky when it comes to wedding dresses and most dresses other brides choose, I don't really like at all. I simply don't comment if I'm not into it. How do I benefit from putting someone down who is happy with their choice? 

The dress I chose is an absolute love it or hate it dress I think.. of course it's risky because there can be people who comment about it in a negative way but I have come to terms with my decision. It compliments my personality.. something classic and timeless that everyone thinks is nice just isn't my thing. 

I say go for it! Don't let anonymous internet haters bring you down

QueerFemme

I think the veil matches the dress perfectly, so I wouldn't change that.  It's a princess dress.  Is that the look you were going for?  If so, then stop worrying. 

[Deleted User]

I think the veil and dress look amazing together and that style dress is very flattering. But mostly...do you love it? I think you rock it.

hyechica81

looks good on you the hell with those who said otherwise.

kimberly0315

Beautiful!!!

lilacck28

I'm so confused about how anyone could say anything negative about you in that dress? You look great in the dress! I mean, I understand we all have different tastes. I was not interested in purchasing a mermaid gown (and I tried one on because I thought it was an a-line at first. I looked really terrible.) But I think women who wear them and love them usually look beautiful in them. 

I can also understand loved ones (kindly and gently) letting you know that a certain look is not flattering or shows off lumps and bumps or whatever else. But that dress suits you,  and I think you look beautiful in it! 

landa10315

I think you look beautiful! The dress is so flattering for your body type. Also, you obviously fell in love with it originally for a reason, so screw what everyone else thinks!

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

Why don't people like this?  They're crazy!  That dress looks amazing.

hellosweetie1015

If someone says your honeyfund is tacky, you should probably listen to them. If someone says your b-list is tacky, you should probably listen to them. If someone says you need to feed your guests, I would definitely listen to them because nobody wants to be hangry cause of a wedding. (Please note: I'm a one-month-old newbie, but I have lots of unnecessary free time on my hands so I've been lurking... a lot.) HOWEVER: If someone says your dress is tacky/ugly/stupid/whatever, take that with a whole planet's worth of salt (which means, essentially, screw them)(unless it's someone who really really really knows you AND someone whose opinion you really really REALLY trust AND someone who has absolutely NO REASON to be hurtful). Random scenario: you're getting married literally in the waves at your favorite beach. Is your thirty-foot train a little much for MY taste? Yeah, maybe, but do you LOVE THE DRESS? Then it doesn't matter if it's a little much for me, it's YOUR DRESS and if you want to wear a thirty-foot train into the waves then GO FOR IT! (Although I will say that you should prepare yourself for that train being ruined, cus it's totally gonna be sandy/salt-watery/fish-poopy/whale-spermy/gods-only-know-what-else-y by the end of that ceremony.)

That being said, your dress and veil are absolutely gorgeous. I love ball gowns myself, and while I'm not personally a fan of veils period, I think that particular combo looks like it was literally custom-made for you. Please, please ignore anyone who says otherwise. You will be GORGEOUS on your wedding day, and the asshats who say otherwise are really, truly, just jealous. (Hell. I'm jealous. You look fabulous!)

ETA: I got a little excitable with my caps lock. I'm a fan of LOTS of EMPHASIS, apparently....