IMO~how something like this should be handled

Drewsgirl31

In short, one of my best and longest friends who is standing up as an honor guest sent me a message earlier that she had bad news. She's broken her arm, needs a full cast and thought I wouldn't want her to still be apart of it. I don't care about a cast being in photos. I care about her healing and still being there if she wants to be.

Take note all of you that freak out because you feel like one of your bridesmaids is going to ruin that perfect photo in your head due to pregnancy/tattoos/broken bones. Are pictures/your day really worth a friendship??

ETA: forgot to include the pic

SachaBee

It's really sad that the Wedding Industrial Complex has gotten so insane that your friend thought you would care more about the photos than her health! Wishing her a quick recovery.

Drewsgirl31

Thank you and I know! I was kinda upset that she would even assume such a thing but she told me her sister had been asked to step down when she broke her leg and they never thought that bride would do that either. It is very sad that people are more worried about what their day will look like than their friends feelings

thisismynickname2

OMG. Not only will her cast totes ruin your photos, how is she supposed to hold her bouquet without the use of two hands? The horror!  

 Poor dear. Wishing her a speedy recovery!  

VulgarGirl

My good friend was in her friend's wedding a few years ago, she was told she wasn't allowed to wear her glasses at the wedding because it would ruin the photos. Glasses. 

Unlike me she's a pushover people pleaser and went along with it for the ceremony and photos afterwards. I still roll my eyes at it.

So good on you @Drewsgirls31 for being a normal and sane person!

Drewsgirl31

I totally poked fun though and asked if we could decorate it she had one of those big brace things that hold her arm at a specific angle. I was thinking of some hanging mason jars and babies breath

monkeysip

MagicInk

Obviously, a REAL friend would just get lasik surgery for their friend's wedding.  Sheesh!

Drewsgirl31

Don't forget the burlap and lace for a beautiful rustic wedding cast!

MobKaz

Drewsgirl31 said:

In short, one of my best and longest friends who is standing up as an honor guest sent me a message earlier that she had bad news. She's broken her arm, needs a full cast and thought I wouldn't want her to still be apart of it. I don't care about a cast being in photos. I care about her healing and still being there if she wants to be. Take note all of you that freak out because you feel like one of your bridesmaids is going to ruin that perfect photo in your head due to pregnancy/tattoos/broken bones. Are pictures/your day really worth a friendship?? ETA: forgot to include the pic

Is she a bridesmaid?  What exactly is an honor guest?

slothiegal

Drewsgirl31 said:

Thank you and I know! I was kinda upset that she would even assume such a thing but she told me her sister had been asked to step down when she broke her leg and they never thought that bride would do that either. It is very sad that people are more worried about what their day will look like than their friends feelings

I'd be more more worried about your poor friend and her clumsy genes!  

Just kidding (god knows I'm not one to talk, I'm forever coming into work with weird bumps and bruises), I hope she heals quickly and I'm so glad to read a story about a sane bride!

Drewsgirl31

MobKaz said:

Drewsgirl31 said:

In short, one of my best and longest friends who is standing up as an honor guest sent me a message earlier that she had bad news. She's broken her arm, needs a full cast and thought I wouldn't want her to still be apart of it. I don't care about a cast being in photos. I care about her healing and still being there if she wants to be.

Take note all of you that freak out because you feel like one of your bridesmaids is going to ruin that perfect photo in your head due to pregnancy/tattoos/broken bones. Are pictures/your day really worth a friendship??

ETA: forgot to include the pic

Is she a bridesmaid?  What exactly is an honor guest?


We are having a vow renewal so she's not a bridesmaid since I'm not a bride. I wasn't going to have any one up there with us besides us and our kids but our closest friends staged an intervention of sorts and told us they were hurt and offended that we didn't ask them to stand with us since they had been there and helped us through our separation a few years back. So I asked them to stand with us, they said yes and then I found the knot and realized it was a no no but that it's also a no no to tell someone you don't want them to stand with you anymore. So the best I could figure to describe them is an honor guest lol

CMGragain

Honestly, a good photographer will pose her so you don't notice her cast.  My daughter attended a formal dinner, and the president of the organization that was hosting the dinner had broken her arm.  She sat close to my daughter and posed smiling together.  You couldn't see the cast at all.  If your friend continues to worry, tell her this.

JCbride2015

This is OT but I really like the term honor guest. Well, all guests are honored-- but it emphasizes the wedding party is there to be honored, not to be your maid. 

Well done on caring about your friend! My wedding party will have plenty of tattoos, different heights and colors, and different modesty requirements. Nobody will look like carbon copies. It's all good!

LondonLisa

My sister was in a wedding where the bride was freaking out because one of the other bridesmaids was going to be 7 months pregnant and she was worried she was going take away attention from her during the ceremony. Cut to the ceremony, and it is my non-pregnant, completely able-bodied, non-tatttoo or brighly coloured hair sister who locked her knees and faints during the ceremony! Just goes to show that it doesn't matter what they are wearing, if they have tattoos, have gained 10 stone, or purple and pink striped hair, they are your closest friends and you should love them no matter what. Also, things happen, the only people that worry about having enough attention are 13 year olds!

SewInLoveWithDMB

Oh no! Your poor friend. That must hurt.

One of my bridesmaids also broke her wrist about 2 weeks before our wedding. She had her arm in a cast that was covered with some kind of beige wrap? Bandage?  (I know nothing about medical equipment of any kind.)

The morning of the wedding, her mom comes into where we are getting ready (and this friend's daughter was also a flower girl) and wrapped a white iridescent ribbon around the cast. Have to say, it looked pretty good! I wouldn't have cared if any of the cast was noticeable in any photo, but it wasn't. 

scrunchythief

I would seriously want to decorate the heck out of that cast:)  Maybe trailing ribbons and flowers?  

Wishing your friend a speedy recovery.

RebeccaB88

One of my sister's bridesmaids had complications from an orthopedic surgery (she was supposed to be fully recovered a month or so before the wedding) and had to wear one of the big clunky boots on one foot to the wedding. She offered to drop out but my sister insisted she stay. (The dresses were short so you could see the boot.)  The photographer did a great job of hiding the boot in the pictures. It didn't matter to my sister, she just wanted her friend there.