No idea what to do for our head table.

climbingsingle

I really don't want a sweetheart table. I'd like to have a head table, but I have no idea who to seat at it. 

We have a MOH and a BM. BM is FI's brother. And while yes, he's the best man, their relationship is currently a little rocky because of something that happened a few months ago. BM is coming to the wedding solo by his own choice. FI doesn't really want to sit at the table with his brother. I could easily sit him with FMIL and FFIL, so no huge deal there. 

MOH is single but will most likely have a date with her. 

Our parents want to (understandably) sit with their respective families. 

I have a brother and he's engaged. I could sit them at our table. But now we have a table of 6 or 7. Will that look odd in a sea of 10 person tables? 

Lauderdale Pink

A) the table of 6 or 7 will not look odd, and you probably won't be there that much anyway.  Brides and grooms spend a lot of time on the move trying to chat with the guests as much as possible (and you always feel like it was never enough anyway)

sit with the people you want to spend the evening with, as much as you will be sitting.  

C) glad to hear that FIs brother is BM even if the relationship is rocky.  This may help an eventual patch up.

D) the upside of a sweetheart table, if you change your mind, it that, when you two do sit down, it gives you a quiet minute to catch your breath without others around.

Best of luck, you sound like a very considerate bride and will make a lovely event.

climbingsingle

Thanks! And you know what? I never looked at the sweetheart table that way. I had one at my first wedding 10 years ago. And since, I've really just not been a fan. But that's a different take on it. I think what I don't like about it is feeling like you're the center of attention. Maybe they can put us in the corner instead. 

AddieCake

Getting a few minutes to ourselves was the reason we had a sweetheart table. No regrets.

JCbride2015

It sounds like a sweetheart table is the way to go if you can come around to it.  Fi's brother might seem purposely excluded if he is not seated at the head table (even if that's what he and Fi both want).

cupcait927

FI and I are going the way of a sweetheart table, simply because seating all of us at a table with parents/siblings/SOs of siblings isn't possible - we'd have 10 people and it's an 8 person table. So FI and I are going to have a sweetheart table and seat the rest of the immediate family at a table next to us. This will also allow us a few minutes just to ourselves, like PPs said.

ScoutF

AddieCake said:

Getting a few minutes to ourselves was the reason we had a sweetheart table. No regrets.

I completely agree with this. The twenty minutes we were sitting at our sweetheart table was the only time we spent 'alone' all day. It was great to have that time to sit together, talk about the fact that we were really married, and just enjoy each others company. 

JoanE2012

We loved our sweetheart table.  We had some time to ourselves to chat about the day thus far.   You don't get many of those moments during the day!  I also used that time to just look around and take it all in.  All that planning, and again, not much time to take it all in.  I strongly suggest the sweetheart table!

Lauderdale Pink

Another added bonus to the sweetheart table, guests don't always want to sit with the bride and groom (that is only partially joking).  And yes, you can get it put off to the side, you don't have to be in the center of the room. 

climbingsingle

Thanks everyone! Looks like we might go with a sweetheart table after all!