Cash as a wedding gift

smalfrie19

If you give someone a card with cash, do you write their names on the outside of the envelope or not?

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Sugargirl1019

Why not? You would if you were just giving a birthday card, right?

Cookie Pusher

I do, just in case the envelope falls out of the box/cage or something. 

CMGragain

You write your names, as in Mr. and Mrs. John Doe, on the outside of the envelope, but NEVER write the amount of cash or check enclosed.

Maggie0829

This is a very odd question.

lyndausvi

Maggie0829 said:

This is a very odd question.

*** SIB **

LOL - I was thinking the same thing.  

Why would giving cash or not giving cash have an effect on how you address the envelope?

misshart00

Maggie0829 said:

This is a very odd question.

I was thinking this too. Money inside and writing names are two very different things that don't necessarily rely on the other.

JCbride2015

I've never heard of writing the names of the giver on the outer envelope.   I always put the name of the person it's for.

Although I guess you could just say, To: and From:.

Maggie0829

JCbride2015 said:

I've never heard of writing the names of the giver on the outer envelope.   I always put the name of the person it's for.

Although I guess you could just say, To: and From:.

No I think she was asking if you still write the giftees name on the envelope if there is cash inside. Not whether you put the gift givers name on the envelope.

JCbride2015

Maggie0829 said:

I've never heard of writing the names of the giver on the outer envelope.   I always put the name of the person it's for.

Although I guess you could just say, To: and From:.

No I think she was asking if you still write the giftees name on the envelope if there is cash inside. Not whether you put the gift givers name on the envelope.

Oh yes I know, sorry I should have quoted CMG.  I think CMG was saying to put the givers' name on the envelope.

CMGragain said:

You write your names, as in Mr. and Mrs. John Doe, on the outside of the envelope, but NEVER write the amount of cash or check enclosed.

Maggie0829

JCbride2015 said:

Maggie0829 said:

JCbride2015 said:

I've never heard of writing the names of the giver on the outer envelope.   I always put the name of the person it's for.

Although I guess you could just say, To: and From:.

No I think she was asking if you still write the giftees name on the envelope if there is cash inside. Not whether you put the gift givers name on the envelope.

Oh yes I know, sorry I should have quoted CMG.  I think CMG was saying to put the givers' name on the envelope.

CMGragain said:

You write your names, as in Mr. and Mrs. John Doe, on the outside of the envelope, but NEVER write the amount of cash or check enclosed.

Oh gotcha. Yeah I have never heard of putting the gift givers name on the envelope either. I mean what is the point when the names should be inside the card?

smalfrie19

would you as the giver, put the names of the giftees on the outside of the card? not your names on the outside...that is odd.. I know some people do with all cards and some people dont and just write congrats or happy birthday or what have you.

jdluvr06

I tend to put their gifted name(s) on the envelope.

beethery

I write things like "Happy Birthday _______" or "Congratulations _______" on the envelope and sign the card. Never heard that you weren't supposed to put the giftees name on the envelope.

CMGragain

My instructions were from the outdated custom of displaying the wedding gifts.  This is no longer practiced.  Cash gifts were displayed with other weddings gifts of sheets, china, crystal, etc.  The name of the giver was on the outside envelope, but not the amount of cash/check.  I assume that a card or note to the couple would be inside the envelope.

KPBM89

beethery said:

I write things like "Happy Birthday _______" or "Congratulations _______" on the envelope and sign the card. Never heard that you weren't supposed to put the giftees name on the envelope.

This.  I do the same, like "Congratulations Mike and Cara!" on the envelope and the card would just have some little note from us and our signatures.  

I also usually doodle all over the envelope to match the occasion.  I've done that since I was in middle school, so everyone expects it when I give them a card.

Maggie0829

smalfrie19 said:

would you as the giver, put the names of the giftees on the outside of the card? not your names on the outside...that is odd.. I know some people do with all cards and some people dont and just write congrats or happy birthday or what have you.

Does it matter either way?  I still think this is a very odd question and that you are way over thinking this.  Just write whatever you want on the outside of the envelope.  I mean you will be putting the card into whatever card box/bag or what not that the couple has available at their wedding so they will know that it is for them whether their names are on it or "Congratulations" is written on it.

CallaLily25

I do. If it's for a wedding, and I know for a fact that she's taking his last name, I'll write something like:

"To the new Mr. and Mrs. Smith"

SBmini

Only the 'white people' at our wedding wrote our name on envelopes that included cash in them. All of my husband's family (where 95% of all of the gifts were cash) wrote THEIR name on the outside of the envelope so we knew who the money came from. After all... we're the only ones getting gifts on our wedding day. Some of them even reused the outer envelope of their invitation and just put the cash in there. It was... different but effective, and I guess eco-friendly.

misshart00

SBmini said:

Only the 'white people' at our wedding wrote our name on envelopes that included cash in them. All of my husband's family (where 95% of all of the gifts were cash) wrote THEIR name on the outside of the envelope so we knew who the money came from. After all... we're the only ones getting gifts on our wedding day. Some of them even reused the outer envelope of their invitation and just put the cash in there. It was... different but effective, and I guess eco-friendly.

So they didn't even put in a card? I guess that makes sense if it's just an envelope with cash.

SBmini

misshart00 said:

Only the 'white people' at our wedding wrote our name on envelopes that included cash in them. All of my husband's family (where 95% of all of the gifts were cash) wrote THEIR name on the outside of the envelope so we knew who the money came from. After all... we're the only ones getting gifts on our wedding day. Some of them even reused the outer envelope of their invitation and just put the cash in there. It was... different but effective, and I guess eco-friendly.

So they didn't even put in a card? I guess that makes sense if it's just an envelope with cash.

Correct- some people just put cash in an envelope and skipped the card all together. But not everyone, we got a lot of cards. Cards with either a blank envelope, or their name printed on the envelope.