Dress Anxiety (Vent)

suburbanstepmom

I dropped my dress off at my tailor of choice back in mid-February for some pretty serious changes.

More or less they are taking in the sides, but also taking the inner two layers out of another dress and putting them into my dress in order to give it a little more fullness and length. Although I have seen a lot of work these ladies have done and it's all been really stunning I can't help but have anxiety over my dress. I just keep thinking - what if I go to my first fitting and I don't like it? What if it looks patchwork? Will I be able to find another dress and be able to afford it after buying one and spending all this money on alterations?

UGH!

My first appointment after dropping my dress of in February isn't until June 28th. I wish it would get here already so I can see the dress and stop worrying too much. (or start shopping for a different dress if they did a total hack job on mine!)

Does anyone else out there suffer from serious vendor-trust issues?? I have similar anxieties about my DJ not showing up or my photographer forgetting to take the lens cover off and not getting any pictures, etc. Maybe I am just a nutcase. lol

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

I used to be really laid back about my vendors and things but now as the day creeps closer those little thoughts come in my head like "What if the centerpieces are just awful and she didn't understand my vision at all?" or "What if I go and get my dress hemmed and decide I want something better?" or "Is this veil even good?  Did I pick the best one?"

I think it's normal to have a few thoughts like that here and there.

onwednesdayswewearpink

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. I ordered a custom dress that doesn't come in until September. I'm freaking that it won't look as good as what I'm visualizing.

[Deleted User]

I'm freaking out that my ceremony won't look like my vision so you aren't alone. We dream up this day and as women overthink and stress when something isn't in our control. Hopefully all our worries will be for nothing.

lilacck28

MissMaeisbeforeJune said:

I dropped my dress off at my tailor of choice back in mid-February for some pretty serious changes.

More or less they are taking in the sides, but also taking the inner two layers out of another dress and putting them into my dress in order to give it a little more fullness and length. Although I have seen a lot of work these ladies have done and it's all been really stunning I can't help but have anxiety over my dress. I just keep thinking - what if I go to my first fitting and I don't like it? What if it looks patchwork? Will I be able to find another dress and be able to afford it after buying one and spending all this money on alterations?

UGH!

My first appointment after dropping my dress of in February isn't until June 28th. I wish it would get here already so I can see the dress and stop worrying too much. (or start shopping for a different dress if they did a total hack job on mine!)

Does anyone else out there suffer from serious vendor-trust issues?? I have similar anxieties about my DJ not showing up or my photographer forgetting to take the lens cover off and not getting any pictures, etc. Maybe I am just a nutcase. lol

STUCK IN BOX

Your photographer definitely won't forget to take the lens cap off. If the lens cap is on and you look through the view finder to take a picture, it all looks black. No way to possibly make that error! 

suburbanstepmom

Thanks all! It's good to know that I am not the only one with totally irrational fears. lol

AureliaJosephine

I feel you!!!

I bought an off the rack dress bc I really loved it and it was discontinued, but I want beading added (like another dress I loved). I'm struggling to find someone I trust to do the beadwork. Also, the dress is currently strapless (and looks good) but I always pictured myself with off the shoulder straps, so I want them added... I'm just afraid I wont love it as much after? Idk I guess all these things are normal, but it literally has been keeping me up at night sometimes and my wedding isn't even for a year!

suburbanstepmom

@AureliaJosephine - that's totally what I am talking about. I lose a lot of sleep over this. haha! Its tough because you're dropping off a dress (that is usually pretty expensive) with someone you hardly know and just trusting them to do the work and do it well. It's scary! Hopefully at the end of the month I will be back with good things to say and not in a panic.

suburbanstepmom

Not that I think anyone was keeping track of this, but I just wanted to pop back to say I had my dress fitting appointment on Saturday and all my fears are gone.

My dress looks AMAZING, and I cried so hard. Both because I love it (still!) and I was so relieved.