Our wedding is in August - invitations are sent, we're getting responses regularly, and my mother keeps bothering me about making a wedding registry.
The trouble being - we don't want one. After he proposed, we both agreed there wasn't anything physical that we were really wanting for. When I first moved in, we spent the first few months making sure we had everything we needed - kitchen appliances, furniture, pots and pans...
So we agreed to not make a registry, and to just let anyone who asked that we're not looking for anything material-wise. Everyone knows cash is always a welcome wedding gift, so we never felt the need to sound greedy and say "we just need money".
However - every time my mother talks to me about the wedding, she always brings up the registry, or lack-thereof.
She's told me to just make a small registry, like 1-2 items from each store, and then return anything we got, but... Not only do I feel awkward about doing that, but it seems rude to me. And can you even return registry gifts? Even so - it still seems rude.
So far no one's expressed any concerns over the fact we don't have a registry except for her. My FI's step-mother is the only person who's asked where we're registered. She also knows we're saving up for a house, so we told her we weren't looking for anything materialistic, and she understood from that.
We've seen multiple people who've been invited and have RSVP'd, and no one else has bothered to ask or put us in that position.
It's not new for my mother to be pressuring me in to doing something for the wedding that I/we didn't want to (or pressuring me to do something before we're ready to, or to not include my FI in a decision). I just wish she'd drop it already.
I mean... is it weird for us to not have a wedding registry? Not even just a small list somewhere?
Plenty of couples have no wedding registries, and just accept "whatever" or monetary gifts, right?