Addressing Engagement Party invites?

Rorelai

I have a couple of questions about the "etiquette" of addressing engagement party invitations that friends and family haven't been able to answer for me. Hopefully someone can help!

I have two cousins over the age of 18 who both still live and home, but I would like them to have the opportunity to bring guests with them to the party. It seems silly to send 3 copies of the same invitation to the same household, but is it poor form to not give them their own invitations since they're both adults? If I can send one invitation is it okay to address it as:

Mr. and Mrs. Smith

Ms. A Smith and Guest

Mr. A Smith and Guest

?

Similarly, my fiancee has three adult aged cousins who still live at home with their parents. Two of them are single and will not be receiving plus one's but the third we are close with both him and his girlfriend and would like to address a separate invitation for the two of them. Would it be in inappropriate to lump the other two cousins in with their parents? Or should all 5 of them be receiving separate invitations?

Thanks so much!!!

AprilH81

I would send all of them individual invitations.  They are adults and are being allowed guests...

pinkcow13

Ditto April. Send them individual invitations.

aurianna

Are you assisting the party's host/hostess with this (or is this not your wedding?)?
Did he/she tell you it was ok to invite single guests with another guest? (if so, the naming conventions you listed for three separate invites look good to me!)

All adults should get their own invitation. I know it seems silly, but the little things make a difference.

Sweet story:
My step-mother's brother has some mental disabilities and still lives at home, however he is a legal adult. Well we invited my step-mother's parents and her brother to our wedding and sent two separate invites to the house. Later my step-mother told me that her brother was so proud to have received his own invitation and RSVP for himself. I guess lots of times he gets lumped in with his parents.

Rorelai

My parents are throwing the engagement party for us but I'm helping out by doing the invitations since they are traveling in Europe right now and the party is in August. I have the list of people being invited but get the fun of figuring out how to address everyone! 

I definitely want to send everyone their own invitations but it seems frivolous to waste paper and money by sending 3+ copies of the same piece of paper to people living under the same roof. However, what's an extra $5 to make someone happy that they're not being lumped in with their parents at age 24, right?

Aurlanna, thank you for the sweet story One of the cousins I mentioned in the second scenario is also living at home with mental disabilities with his two siblings (who are both younger than him). I really hope that he has the same reaction when we send him his own invitation too!

JCbride2015

Yes, I would send the individual invitations, especially if the young adults are getting to bring a guest. They will love having their own invite.

Also, I already like you just based on your sn. 

KatieinBkln

JCbride2015 said:

Yes, I would send the individual invitations, especially if the young adults are getting to bring a guest. They will love having their own invite.

Also, I already like you just based on your sn. 

I came here just to declare my approval of this screenname, also. (Why you always in my brain, JC?)

Rorelai

Thanks, guys! My name is actually Rory and I often told people my middle name was Lorelai because of all the GG related questions I would get -- now my friends all call me Rorelai, for obvious awesome reasons.