Bridesmaids -- How to announce?

Knottie33668729

My fiancee and I decided to have four in each of our parties.  While his are all set and ready to go (men!), I'm a little more tenuous at officially announcing.  I have two bridesmaids spots to fill with four ladies.  I think I know which two I want to be included (I've known them longer), but how do I tell the other two!?  We're all very close friends and I do not want anyone's feelings to be hurt.

Thoughts?

Jen4948

I'd just ask all four.  Your sides don't have to be even, so you can have four bridesmaid spots to fill with all four of your friends.

AddieCake

Ugh. First, please stop saying you have "spots to fill" b/c if that is all you are doing, then can I be one of your bridesmaids? "Spots to fill" sounds like you don't care who does it as long as the "spots" are "filled." 

There is no reason you can't have all 4 of those friends if you want all of them in your wedding party. If you choose to only pick 2 of those friends, then you don't tell the other two anything until it comes up. Most likely, they will eventually ask about it. And then you would just say you decided to choose Mary and Sally and then change the subject. 

RebeccaFlower

It is seriously shitty to not include someone because you want even sides. No one will think twice if you have six and your FI has four. 

chibiyui

Yeah, ask all 4. Sides do not have to be even. 

CMGragain

You don't announce who is in your bridal party.  You ask each person, individually.  When it time to look at bridesmaid dresses, you can all get together.  If one of them asks, you can tell them who else has accepted.  You don't "announce".

hikebikebemerry

Hold an auction- spot goes to the highest bidder.  This will also mean that they have the most disposable income and will throw the best shower and bach.

But really, like PPs said, you do not need to have even sides. There have been "uneven" sides in 2 of the 3 weddings that I have been in (the other only had a MOH and BM) and it was a non-issue.

I have never heard of someone being upset that their sides were uneven, only of people being upset that they didn't ask someone/ asked people they weren't close to just to have even sides.

MyNameIsNot

Knottie33668729 said:

My fiancee and I decided to have four in each of our parties.  While his are all set and ready to go (men!), I'm a little more tenuous at officially announcing.  I have two bridesmaids spots to fill with four ladies.  I think I know which two I want to be included (I've known them longer), but how do I tell the other two!?  We're all very close friends and I do not want anyone's feelings to be hurt.

Thoughts?

If you have 6 ladies who should be BMs, you ask all six.  Excluding 2 just to have even sides is ridiculous and mean. 

You are creating this problem for no reason.  Of course you are going to hurt feelings when you try to tell two close friends that you care more about even numbers than you do about them.  

Ask all of them.  Don't announce anything.