I AM SO MAD. Help calm me!

ashley8918

So, I logged onto Facebook this morning and saw that my ex-husband had been tagged in the following post by a mutual friend:

"Happy fathers day to all the real fathers that take care of their kids."

... And my head immediately exploded with rage. ARE YOU SERIOUS? It isn't a secret that he quit his job to avoid child support several years ago, and hasn't seen my kids in over 2 years BY HIS OWN CHOICE because "he just couldn't deal with it" and " it was too hard" to be a parent.

I know that I shouldn't upset myself with these sorts of things. FI has been a better dad than he could have ever been. But, I can't help it. I am just SO ANGRY.

JCbride2015

Wow. I'd be angry too, and I'd post something confrontational on that status. So... I'm no help to you lol!

But really, be thankful for Fi. And laugh because anybody who really knows your ex will be rolling their eyes, too.

ashley8918

JCbride2015 said:

Wow. I'd be angry too, and I'd post something confrontational on that status. So... I'm no help to you lol!

But really, be thankful for Fi. And laugh because anybody who really knows your ex will be rolling their eyes, too.

Yeah,,, I couldnt stop myself from commenting. Whoopsie doodle. I'm still furious, but FI and I had a good laugh about it, so that helps.

jdluvr06

I would be angry too and no way would I be able to stop myself from commenting.

MyNameIsNot

Was tagging him meant to be sarcastic?

I would private message her and ask her to take it down and not comment about such things.  Her nose doesn't belong in that kind of business.

elizabetheleven

ashley8918 said:

So, I logged onto Facebook this morning and saw that my ex-husband had been tagged in the following post by a mutual friend:

"Happy fathers day to all the real fathers that take care of their kids."

... And my head immediately exploded with rage. ARE YOU SERIOUS? It isn't a secret that he quit his job to avoid child support several years ago, and hasn't seen my kids in over 2 years BY HIS OWN CHOICE because "he just couldn't deal with it" and " it was too hard" to be a parent.

I know that I shouldn't upset myself with these sorts of things. FI has been a better dad than he could have ever been. But, I can't help it. I am just SO ANGRY.

I completely ignore my ex's fb on fathers day for this exact reason. He chooses not to be a "dad". He is absent by choice.However it feels as though he uses our kids as a "trophy" like "look what I have!" But makes no contributions.
My now H is an amazing step dad. It takes more then sperm to be a father. I'm sure you know this but try to focus on that.

But I know how angry it makes me so I feel ya!

CMGragain

Some years ago, I was driving through town, and I saw a group of people picketing on the corner of a doctor's office building.  The signs said, "Doctor Jones!  Pay your child support!" and "Daddy, we need food!" Two ladies and a bunch of kids were waving to the passing traffic!  I laughed so hard.

jenajjthr

You could always post and tag your FI with the meme about stepdads and how awesome they are when they step up to the role of dad when bio dad bails. But that is me, and what I secretly do each Father's day for my hubby. I don't really post anything on FB, but he does know how much I appreciate him stepping up.

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

My FI's bio dad is a complete deadbeat jerk, but FI called his step dad (the guy who raised him) and wished him a Happy Father's Day.  Step dads rule.

smalfrie19

My nephew's dad is absent as well. My sister tagged all the people in her life that help her with him. I was one of them! I felt special  

mysticl

MyNameIsNot said:

Was tagging him meant to be sarcastic?

I would private message her and ask her to take it down and not comment about such things.  Her nose doesn't belong in that kind of business.

That's what I was wondering.  Especially if the friend is fully aware of the situation. 

Vivandiere8

If he hasn't seen his kids in two years... his friend must have meant it sarcastically. Anything else just doesn't make sense... I mean the wording of that post isn't just "Happy Father's Day" or ever "Happy Fathers Day to a great Dad", which would be annoying, but still a pretty generic thing to post, but it actually said "...all the real fathers who take care of their kids." Something like that is being worded that way for a reason I would think.

I kind of wonder if after your comment (whatever it was) if that friend will reply with something showing that's how they meant it

ashley8918

Maybe, but I don't really think that it was meant in a sarcastic way. He (the poster) is kind of the same way. He sees his kids VERY occasionally and thinks that makes him a superstar dad.