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Bridal shower location

As a lurker for some time I have read so much excellent advice from this board. Now I'm hoping to get some opinions on the location of my bridal shower. My younger sister/MOH has very generously offered to host a bridal shower. She lives with my parents, who have two large energetic dogs and limited space for a 20 person-ish gathering. She asked if she could host the bridal shower at my house. This way the dogs won't be an issue and I also have an open living room/kitchen and a large finished basement that could probably host people more easily and comfortably. I have no problem with having an event at my house, but I'm not sure if it will look like I am attempting to host my own shower (which is not the case!). So, which is better : shower at my parents house with less space and some disruption from the dogs, or a shower hosted by my sister at my house (better space but may be questionable etiquette wise)? Thanks in advance!

Re: Bridal shower location

  • I don't see a problem doing it at your house. Just make sure the invitations come from your sister and she is the one the RSVP's go to etc.
    This. I've done the same thing and no one ever said anything to me. It was clear I was hosting. 
  • Every shower I have ever been to has been at the home of the bride. I don't think anybody will question it. I agree with Scribe, though, that it will mean additional work on you cleaning, etc. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • My BFF and MOH is hosting my shower at my house because she lives in a very small apartment. She is arranging for cleaning before and after. Of course, I know that I will do things to make sure the house is presentable and I thought it lovely that she has made arrangements before and after.
    Happiness is an inside job
  • I don't see a problem with having it at her house.  I was a MOH for my friend last year and it was at her mom's house/the house the bride lived at.  

    One thing I would recommend would be getting her out of the house while you set up.  My friend's shower was a couple's shower, so her then FI/now DH took her out to lunch while we set up.
  • I hosted my sister's baby shower at her house. I offered to hire a housekeeper to come in the day before. It was important to me that she didn't lift a finger. She turned down my offer, but our friends all pitched in to get the house ready. It turned out great and everything went well. 

    Nobody thought twice about having it at her house- it was very clear I was hosting.
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