Too bitchy?

Jells2dot0

My SIL (DH's brother's wife) is a total drama queen. She always has to have attention and she usually garners it by posting "oh woe is me" posts to FB. Ex:"I wish I didn't exist anymore" or when fighting with her DD "why do you always break my heart and do this to me?" I LOATHE it.

Today's post is "why do I even exist" so I wanted to respond, "Well, you can always trade places with me if you'd like!" I do not want to add fuel to her desires, but I totally want to smack her down. Thoughts???

bethsmiles

I hate people who post those kind of stauses. It's pathetic. IMO no amount of bitchy is too much in response to that kind of Facebook post.

climbingsingle

Gah! I hate that shit. 

Honestly, she's looking for attention. Don't give it to her! 

beethery

I usually hide people who are like that from my FB and get this lovely refreshed feeling when I don't see that nonsense on there.

That said, if I were currently going through cancer treatment I might say, "Well, you can always borrow some of my cells and forgo treatment." But I am a mean, nasty bitch.

jdluvr06

I'd facebook block her.

KatWAG

I wouldnt comment. If you do it will only give her the attention she is seeking.

JCbride2015

My only hesitation is that I know you said you haven't told a lot of people about your cancer treatment, so you may not want people asking you questions or finding out that way.

But I'd post something bitchy and then hide her from my wall.  Vaguebooking is the worst.

Jells2dot0

I figured it wasn't good to comment, but it's just so tempting!!! She just drives me BSC! I may block her when I can get back onto my laptop.

JCbride2015 said:

My only hesitation is that I know you said you haven't told a lot of people about your cancer treatment, so you may not want people asking you questions or finding out that way.

But I'd post something bitchy and then hide her from my wall.  Vaguebooking is the worst.

Other than joint family that does know, we do not have any similar acquaintances (they live in a different state and nowhere near any of my friends or fam) So, I suppose some of my friends could see the post, but they wouldn't have access to her wall. Still, I know it's not right to feed the flames!!

loveislouder

I hate people like that. And the people that post "OMG TODAY IS HORRIBLE!" and then people comment "Whats wrong?"  "I don't want to talk about it." UGH.

arrippa

I hate when people post vague Facebook updates. More than half the time, they are dying for people to ask what's going on, even if they said they don't want to talk about it.

SBmini

When my SIL was going through her divorce she vaguebooked all the time. She was very private about what was happening, but kept posting immature 'inspirational' photos without any context and posts that didn't make sense unless you knew about the situation.

My husband called her up and told her to stop because she looked pathetic. And she did. 

Now, that was his sister. It is definitely different when you are bonded by marriage and not by blood. I agree that people like that are obnoxious, but if it is going to cause tension- I would just suppress updates from her. 

theartistformerlyknownas

Oh man, I normally block those types of people but if I were in your shoes I would find it SUPER hard to resist a snarky retort. Although that can backfire if this time there really IS something awful going on. If it is nothing but first world problems getting her down, she totally deserves it. Sometimes I'll just passive-aggressively post something of my own about gratitude or positive thinking or what have you, like "right now someone is praying for the things you take for granted." 

emmyg65

Definitely block her. I blocked my crazy SIL and it was the smartest decision. 

KatieinBkln

Ugh, I wouldn't blame you. People like that need to grow up, and shut up (in the reverse order).

larrygaga

If you can't delete her, unfollow her.

sophhabobopha

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Jells2dot0

I finally came off of my prednizone (sp?) high, calmed down, and let her BS pass. I know better than to fall for her crap, but the meds momentarily clouded my judgment!

Edit- spelling

mysticl

Jells2dot0 said:

I finally came off of my prednizone (sp?) high, calmed down, and let her BS pass. I know better than to fall for her crap, but the meds momentarily clouded my judgment! Edit- spelling

Prednisone will do that to you. It makes me really angry. Is it doing anything for your appetite?

Jells2dot0

mysticl said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I finally came off of my prednizone (sp?) high, calmed down, and let her BS pass. I know better than to fall for her crap, but the meds momentarily clouded my judgment!

Edit- spelling

Prednisone will do that to you. It makes me really angry. Is it doing anything for your appetite?

I have been somewhat hungry, but I'm always hungry. So, it's hard to tell! I do think I've eaten less in the hospital, but maybe because there is less food for me to get my hands on!

Simply Fated

JCbride2015 said:

My only hesitation is that I know you said you haven't told a lot of people about your cancer treatment, so you may not want people asking you questions or finding out that way.

But I'd post something bitchy and then hide her from my wall.  Vaguebooking is the worst.

Vaguebooking is a huge pet peeve of mine. Especially when people ask for details and they blow it off with being even more vague.

I have hidden people for too much vaguebooking. They only do it for attention and I don't have patience for that.

LondonLisa

@Jells2dot0 are we related? Because my SIL does the exact same thing! It is so obnoxious. Lately she has started posting the faux-inspirational or passive aggressive quotes over photos and tagging certain people in it. This woman is in her 30s.  At the end of the day, it is just sad that some people are still emotionally stuck in secondary school!

PS- I'm very sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I wish you all the best.

Jells2dot0

LondonLisa said:

@Jells2dot0 are we related? Because my SIL does the exact same thing! It is so obnoxious. Lately she has started posting the faux-inspirational or passive aggressive quotes over photos and tagging certain people in it. This woman is in her 30s.  At the end of the day, it is just sad that some people are still emotionally stuck in secondary school!

PS- I'm very sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I wish you all the best.

I think we all have someone in our lives that needs the drama. Unfortunately, this woman is in her 40s and just lacks the understanding of social graces and tact.

APDSS22

Every time she posts, imagine her with a ridiculous cartoon duck bill sticking out of her face. Then she'll make you laugh instead of get angry. I might have some vaguebookers I can't ignore on my FB...

RebeccaB88

I would totally have said that. Even if it was too bitchy. If she's your husband's sister, tell him to call her out on how pathetic she is. I might not block her, but definitely hide her feed so I couldn't see the stupidity anymore. If something does happen to her in the future, no one will be there for her because she's cried wolf so long for attention. You have enough to deal with without her negativity. Hide her and get on with kicking some cancer ass!

mysticl

Jells2dot0 said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I finally came off of my prednizone (sp?) high, calmed down, and let her BS pass. I know better than to fall for her crap, but the meds momentarily clouded my judgment! Edit- spelling

Prednisone will do that to you. It makes me really angry. Is it doing anything for your appetite?

I have been somewhat hungry, but I'm always hungry. So, it's hard to tell! I do think I've eaten less in the hospital, but maybe because there is less food for me to get my hands on!

It can cause some people (like me) to have an insanely insatiable appetite.  I read somewhere that they will sometimes give it to chemo patients to get them to eat.  

Jells2dot0

mysticl said:

Jells2dot0 said:

mysticl said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I finally came off of my prednizone (sp?) high, calmed down, and let her BS pass. I know better than to fall for her crap, but the meds momentarily clouded my judgment!

Edit- spelling

Prednisone will do that to you. It makes me really angry. Is it doing anything for your appetite?

I have been somewhat hungry, but I'm always hungry. So, it's hard to tell! I do think I've eaten less in the hospital, but maybe because there is less food for me to get my hands on!

It can cause some people (like me) to have an insanely insatiable appetite.  I read somewhere that they will sometimes give it to chemo patients to get them to eat.  


This chemo patient doesn''t need the steroids to eat. LOL All of the nurses keep asking if my appetite has increased. I am pretty sure I ate WAY more while I was at home recovering from my surgeries.

I did, however, spontaneously cry this morning. I was leaving a VM for DH and busted out crying when I mentioned going home tomorrow to sleep in my own bed.

doeydo

I would respond to her posts with memes.

beethery

Jells2dot0

Justice! I glad I kept my mouth shut because someone I don't even know put SIL in her place. I guess it's one of her friends or maybe it's even someone on her side of the family. This woman stated "you think that but then you get close to death and you change your mind." The comment had nothing to do with me, but hopefully she thought about what life could really be like right now. Of course, today's post was "money, money, money it will be the death of me." SIGH