Who is in charge of hosting/planning a bridal shower for a second marriage?

Maggie0829

MandyMost said:

Maggie0829 said:

So you are against showers in general not just for second or third etc weddings?

That is fine, you can be against them, but to say that second marriages should not be lavish and they should not be allowed showers is judgmental.  Period.

I never asked for gifts but when someone was sweet enough to give me one I accepted them graciously.  And surprisingly people may actually want to shower you with gifts because they want to celebrate your upcoming nuptials.  It is not rude to accept that or be excited that people want to do that for you.

Whoa, NEVER said anything about second weddings not being lavish! Be as lavish as you want. I'm speaking only to the shower. A shower is a gift-giving event. Inviting someone to a shower is essentially asking them to buy you a gift. If you already asked everyone once, I don't think you should ask them again. Period. Same thing for second baby showers. 

And an invite is not a summons so people who feel like you will decline the shower and people who feel like me and a few others on this board will accept and happily bring a gift.

KGold80

Second time bride here. My first wedding was TWELVE years ago and I don't even have most of that stuff anymore or my ex has it. So to say that I shouldn't have a shower (although I didn't have one)  just because it's a second wedding is a little bit ridiculous.

buttercup1958

My uncle has been married several times. My dad finally told him that he wouldn't give him a wedding gift until the marriage lasted five years because my dad said he was tired of wasting money. Of course, its his right but I always found it funny that my dad put a time limit on when to give a gift ha. If you want to give a gift, give it. Or don't. No one is forcing you.