Unofficial bridesmaid this weekend 22nd June - what do I wear?

Kimbadawhitelyon

My best friend is getting married this weekend an I don't know what to wear. It's going to be a very cold day too. We always promised to be each other's bridesmaid when the time came, she wearing blue and me wearing pink. Late last year she was my maid of honour in blue as I promised. Now she is getting married, but because of some major family dramas and "tradition" on the grooms side, I can't be bridesmaid anymore and we are both a bit upset about it. She has already got 2 bridesmaids wearing baby pink tea dresses so I can't wear anything too similar, but she wants me to wear pink still. I have this jacket which I really love, I just can't think what to wear with it. The wedding is very traditional so nothing too flashy and must be knee length or longer. I'm pear shaped so pencil skirts do not suit me at all, trust me on that. I do have a large collection of heels and boots in most styles. http://dwmyb86fhbk4v.cloudfront.net/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/425x/9df78eab33525d08d6e5fb8d27136e95/j/a/ja1423_magenta.jpg

msuprincess04

As you aren't a bridesmaid you can wear whatever you like. That's a beautiful jacket. What about a simple black a-line dress with stockings and heels? Is that jacket too heavy to wear indoors?

theartistformerlyknownas

That's sucky that she did that to you. I hope it wasn't in the name of keeping equal sides. 

Wear whatever you want. Could you do something like this? Although shipping might getcha...

http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/100-layer-cake-dress

RebeccaFlower

This is so bizarre to me. I don't know why you would want to look like a bridesmaid when you're not one?

manateehugger

I think your friend is kind of being a dick for not standing up for you; I know we don't know the situation, but still. If she needed to add in the groom's family, fine, but that didn't mean you couldn't also be a bridesmaid.

ANYWAY, I would not want to look like a bridesmaid when I'm not on. Your jacket is really cute, but it looks like a fall jacket, not a summer wedding jacket.

You're cutting it probably too close to order from most stores online. I'd swing through Macy's, Nordstrom, Kohl's, Ann Taylor, etc. to see if you happen to like any cute dress of the rack. There's tons of pretty knee-length summer cocktail dresses out there right now.

doeydo

You're not a bridesmaid so you can wear whatever colour or style clothing you want to.  With that jacket, I would probably wear a more neutral dress so maybe black or nude or a patterned dress with that colour in it (but that's just me).  Suggestions:
http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/evolution-of-enchantment-dress

http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/belle-at-the-reception-dress

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Strapless-Long-Printed-Chiffon-Dress-JS4V6044_Special-Occasions-Shop-By-Occasion-Formal-Long-Dresses

http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/sl-fashions-sleeveless-pleated-side-bow-dress?ID=1131133&CategoryID=5449&LinkType=#fn=DRESS_LENGTH=Knee Length;;Long;;Below the Knee%26SPECIAL_OCCASIONS%3DGuest of Wedding%26sp%3D1%26spc%3D271%26ruleId%3D%26slotId%3D15

http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/lauren-ralph-lauren-pleated-cocktail-dress?ID=498883&CategoryID=5449#fn=DRESS_LENGTH=Knee Length;;Long;;Below the Knee%26SPECIAL_OCCASIONS%3DGuest of Wedding%26sp%3D1%26spc%3D271%26ruleId%3D%26slotId%3D4

climbingsingle

I just have to say that this makes me sad for you. 

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I love the jacket, dislike the situation. You can wear any of the following colors in a skirt, dress or pants: white, ivory, black, navy blue. I would opt for something that would allow you to take off the jacket if you get too warm. As long as you don't wear a full length dress (unless it's a casual maxi dress), you won't look like a bridesmaid.

Kimbadawhitelyon

In reply to Rebeccaflower, I don't want to look like a bridesmaid. All I want to do is wear some form of pink because she wants me to. I know it's not good etiquette to try and dress like anyone from the bridal party, that's why I picked magenta instead of baby pink. The situation sucks, I cried for a week, but there's nothing I can do about it except try to be the best friend I can for her.

Kimbadawhitelyon

Lolo883 - You must be spying on the wedding because that is exactly like the bridesmaids dress but full length. Same colour, same style. I do really like it.

STARMOON44

Is it winter where you live? If not I think that jacket will look odd and out of place.

Kimbadawhitelyon

Its the middle of winter here in australia, and the wedding is on the top of a mountain that is renowned for being extra cold. I'll probably leave the jacket on the whole day unless the reception has the heat turned right up