Is there something wrong with me?

climbingsingle

I haven't been stressed about wedding planning at all. In fact, I've loved it. This is my second wedding, so it's a little scaled back. I only have a MOH. I'm not having a shower. 

I have 102 days to go and I have yet to have a freak out. 

Inkdancer

There is nothing wrong with you, except that you are totally humblebragging right now. I would love to be this stress-free!

vk2204

Yes, lol there is something wrong with you! I HATED wedding planning! Or maybe there is something wrong with me...

climbingsingle

Maybe I should start a wedding planning operation :-P 

arrippa

You're doing it wrong?

Just kidding. I am not really stressed either. As long as I get married at the end of the day, then everything is good.

climbingsingle

I have had some wedding nightmares. And those are freaky. 

emmaaa

I feel the same way! I am naturally a high strung personality and I was sure I'd be a stressed mess when it came to my wedding. But I have been so laid back about it (at least laid back for me) that I don't know what to do with myself. I find myself saying, "I don't care" or "Whatever is fine" when it comes to most things.

hikebikebemerry

I'm not terribly stressed about planning either.  Probably because we chose a venue with a DOC.

I also think that it's what people are exposed to during planning.  I don't think that the planning per se is stressful, it's how much family/friend/financial drama/stress is being added to the mix.  I also think the opinion of the people who surround you is.  I'm sure that I would be much more stressed if my mother/FMIL/BFF/Great Aunt Edna was all, "OMG YOU HAVE TO OUT DO SO-AND-SO AND HAVE EVERYTHING BE PERFECT!".  

VulgarGirl

I'm pretty relaxed about the wedding planning thus far. 

I've only had one wedding dream so far, FI decided she didn't want to get married and bailed. But I didn't freak out in the dream, I just married my good friend. Who is straight. And already married to a dude. But it was no big deal and she was happy to marry me. I had a similar dream when she was getting married, that her FI at the time (now husband) bailed so she just married me instead. I have no idea what that means. But both dreams were really chill. Like no one was upset by it. 

slothiegal

arrippa said:

You're doing it wrong?

Just kidding. I am not really stressed either. As long as I get married at the end of the day, then everything is good.

Right?  At the beginning, I was a basket case (of course, that's my norm), but once I accepted the fact that yes, things will go wrong, no, I will not get everything I want, and yes, it will be amazing because I will be married to the love of my life--a lot of the stress melted away.  

I'm more excited than anything else!

wandajune6

Nope.

I had a freak out a few months ago but have been having fun ever since. Once I had the "big" things done, everything else really seems optional. Sure, there's a lot that needs to be done but we have a location, an officiant, food and drink. As far as we're concerned, nothing else is absolutely necessary so the stress is less.

climbingsingle

I'm so excited, I don't think I'm going to be able to sleep from now until September 27th. 

It does definitely help that our ceremony and reception are in one place and we have a coordinator. And both of our families are very laid back and not putting any pressure on us at all. I think they're both just happy we're getting married. FI is 40. His mom told me she was worried he was never going to get married. 

MamaAlly89

Just wait till your count down gets to about 50 days left. That's when the stress beings! At least in my case, it was pretty stress free until recently when I realized there isn't much time left and I better get doing on all my DIY stuff.

melbelleup

I am 10 days out after today and still haven't freaked and it's my first. lol I think some just don't freak. But I'm an over planner so there's that habit too.

ETA: Okay, I freaked last night that I wouldn't be able to bend my thumb for our wedding and it could potential ruin our honeymoon (beachin' it) butttt hopefully my thumb will be all better by then

JCbride2015

I am not stressed about details. I'm stressed about budget. Even though I've gone over and over my spreadsheet a million times, it still stresses me out that we already have deposits down on things but we still need to save up the rest of the money. I keep trying to tell myself we have time and we'll get there.
But stressing about how things will look, etc? Not yet. Maybe in a few months I'll get there!

beachyone15

hikebikebemerry said:

I'm not terribly stressed about planning either.  Probably because we chose a venue with a DOC.

I also think that it's what people are exposed to during planning.  I don't think that the planning per se is stressful, it's how much family/friend/financial drama/stress is being added to the mix.  I also think the opinion of the people who surround you is.  I'm sure that I would be much more stressed if my mother/FMIL/BFF/Great Aunt Edna was all, "OMG YOU HAVE TO OUT DO SO-AND-SO AND HAVE EVERYTHING BE PERFECT!".  

I 100% agree with both of these statements!

photokitty

I was a 2nd timer too. No WP. No shower. 

I didn't freak out until 8 weeks out when I tore my calf and was put in my air cast and crutches. I couldn't drive. Then I freaked out. Then I said, if it doesn't HAVE to happen, it's not going to happen. No more freak outs. :-D

Moral of the story - don't tear your calf and you'll be fine ;-p

pinkcow13

I'm also not really stressed! Granted, we have a while to go. Overall, I'm really excited. I LOVE our venue, it is pretty much everything that I wanted, and ours will serve as the ceremony and reception. The only thing that stresses me out is the budget - even though I know it's fine! I just opened up a few mutual funds through my job (as an employee I don't have to worry about fees, and can withdraw the money at any point without penalties), and will have a chunk of each paycheck go into them, and that will all go towards the wedding. 

I'm just mostly excited. All our friends and family are super excited. I was more stressed about the engagement party since FMIL hosted (if I had to look at one more combination of colors I was going to scream!) I love hosting, and event planning, and doing things my way. I think that's why I'm excited, this will be our wedding, done the way we want it. And yes, we are spending a decent amount, but it's what we want, and we know it's going to be a blast!

Cookie Pusher

I totally didn't stress for the first 2+ years of our engagement. Like, at all. Decisions were made, stuff got done. 8 weeks out, we started feeling the crunch of confirming everything. 6 weeks out, shit started to hit the fan. We're 18 days out now and I still want to call the whole damn thing off and elope. RSVPs were due yesterday and we still have a significant number still out. My apartment is filled with boxes of wedding items to bring to the caterer. Oh yea, and I haven't finished altering one of my dresses yet. I don't own enough wine to get me through the next 2 and a half weeks! lol

climbingsingle

I know I've totally jinxed myself. One month out, I'm going to be a mess. 

Jells2dot0

I think being a second timer makes a big difference. I was an uber control freak the first time around and any little thing sent me into tailspin. There are so many choices, price points, people trying to sway you. Noone was going to get in my way the second time and I went into it knowing exactly what to do, what not to do, and what was going to make me happy!

climbingsingle

Jells2dot0 said:

I think being a second timer makes a big difference. I was an uber control freak the first time around and any little thing sent me into tailspin. There are so many choices, price points, people trying to sway you. Noone was going to get in my way the second time and I went into it knowing exactly what to do, what not to do, and what was going to make me happy!

I definitely had my Bridezilla moments the first time around. Also, I was 24 and dumb. 

Jells2dot0

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I think being a second timer makes a big difference. I was an uber control freak the first time around and any little thing sent me into tailspin. There are so many choices, price points, people trying to sway you. Noone was going to get in my way the second time and I went into it knowing exactly what to do, what not to do, and what was going to make me happy!

I definitely had my Bridezilla moments the first time around. Also, I was 24 and dumb. 

Amen.

QueerFemme

I made myself insane about my dress, but other than that, nothing really stressed me.   I only had a mini meltdown the day before the wedding.

Senecaf

I haven't been stressed either but I think it will start soon. The fact the I have so much left to do worries me. And that many of my DIYs have to be done the week of. (Florals, chocolate favors etc). I'm like 2 months out and still don't have a dress (another DIY). I'm least concerned with that. I know that will be fine. The flowers are my biggest concern.

FiancB

I feel like I'm handling things pretty in stride. The big stuff is out of the way and like others said, the rest is optional. I'm 12 days out so I'm a bit more stressed because I'll have OOT guests and I'm not sure how I'll keep them all entertained/feel like I'm spending enough time with them while still getting other shit done. I'm also not really looking forward to dealing with my parents. But it'll be what it'll be. 

clarke10

My one and only freak-out happened when FFIL informed us he verbally invited all of his distant relatives that FH has never met and we had no intention of inviting.

Other than that, the planning hasn't been stressed at all. We still have 11 months to go, but I think the long engagement and extra time to plan will help ease the stress of the final months. 

ohannabelle

Well, it isn't my wedding, but somehow I was elected to be the designer coordinator planner phone caller dressmaker head of general organization.  Daughter is doing fine, stress wise, with the occasional is this really happening moment. 

I'm pretty calm, with the exception of when I started cutting into and rebuilding the wedding dress.

Once I had the bodice fitted and sewn back together and got the boning in, I started breathing normally again. Now it's easy. But damned tedious. 

10 frikking hours so far, of getting that beaded lace on the hem. Ten. I didn't expect that. I want it to be done. 

So calm, yes. So far.