Too Early?

photokitty

Here's some advice - listen to your mother, she's typically right (or at least in the instance she definitely was)

Lauramae980

I, too have an Oct 18 date, but have not ordered invites yet. They are designed, just not ordered. Every time I go on this site, I get reminders about how late I am and that I need to start sending out invites.  If not for these boards (which I have been lurking of for over a year) I would have thought I had to have them out by June. The Knot checklist is waaaay off. 

ashleyep

Lauramae980 said:

I, too have an Oct 18 date, but have not ordered invites yet. They are designed, just not ordered. Every time I go on this site, I get reminders about how late I am and that I need to start sending out invites.  If not for these boards (which I have been lurking of for over a year) I would have thought I had to have them out by June. The Knot checklist is waaaay off. 

How long have you been engaged? My timeline had a due date of roughly 8-10 weeks before for sending out invites - and that's still a little early.

June? Really? Are you sure that's not the other date? Or the save the date date (though that would be late)?

MollyandD

Clearly, it's too late to do anything about the invitations now.  It's done now, so I guess all I can offer is saying that I hope you talk to all your guests often enough to be able to remind them personally whenever you hang out. I doubt that's the case, but I don't have any good suggestions. 

I understand wanting to know how many guests you'll have. I wish I'd known when I booked my venue how many declines I'd end up getting. I could have saved $250, because I'm low enough in numbers now, but everything was booked by the venue (cake, punch, napkins, cups, plates, mints, nuts, etc.) 3 weeks ago. One good thing was that my food count for dinner wasn't needed nearly so early, so I am saving quite a bit by having 30 people less than I originally planned and budgeted for. It's not good that they aren't coming, of course. I'd rather pay the money and have them there. It's just good that I know in time who can and can't come. 

MollyandD

AddieCake said:

Oh, good. The "good luck to your husbands/I feel sorry for your husbands" line. Yawn. I do wish people could be more original in their snark and insults. Please make a better effort next time, OP. 

How about, "I feel sorry for the offspring who may one day have the unfortunate experience of bursting through your loins?"

Maybe I'm not creative enough for this, either. Anyone else have a better one? 

beethery

@Molly&Domenic I got ya

izza2

Wow, there are a lot of rude people here. Sure, the points are valid, but you can still be polite in how you bring them forward.

We sent our invitations out in the beginning of May - our wedding is in August. We were still told that was way too early.

We got half of the invitations back within.. two weeks, I think? And now we've steadily been getting some back since then. I think we have maybe ten or so people left who haven't RSVPd? I'm sure there may be a few people who've said they'd be there (everyone has so far) who won't actually make it; but it happens and I'm not worried.

Did you send them out early? Yes. Is it the end of the world? Absolutely not.

Always prepare for everybody to show up, even if you get your RSVPs back and there are a bunch of declines. Some people will show up anyways, some people will forget and not come, some people will get tied up last-minute. Even your RSVP cards won't give you an accurate head-count, because sometimes life happens.