The Dirty RSVPer *RANT*

MamaAlly89

I'm seriously irritated about this right now. I sent an invitation to my cousin and her husband, and just received their rsvp in the mail today. They rsvp'd yes for 3 people! They don't have any kids and nobody else was listed on the invite. Do people honestly think its ok for them to just bring/invite other people with them to my wedding!? This is just totally bizarre to me. Anybody else get and rude dirty rsvp's lately?

melbelleup

I got one.. my RSVP date was May 28th... my dad called ppl last week (so we gave them a week b4 calling) and yesterday I opened my mail to an RSVP from one of the ppl my dad called like 3 times and never answered... always voicemail.... how hard is it to call someone back say we're not coming... yet you mail back saying no. pfffft. I had to tell my dad to stop calling bc I got theirs lol oh, and this is my dad's cousin.

sarahufl

lol at your cousin. It is bad enough when people respond that their kid is coming, but who the hell are your cousin and her husband bringing!?

JCbride2015

sarahufl said:

lol at your cousin. It is bad enough when people respond that their kid is coming, but who the hell are your cousin and her husband bringing!?

This is what I want to know.  Maybe they are in a poly relationship and have decided your wedding is the appropriate time to share with the family?

Aray82

I've heard of this happening a lot, but just with bringing kids...never for just random extra people when no kids are involved!

MamaAlly89

sarahufl said:

lol at your cousin. It is bad enough when people respond that their kid is coming, but who the hell are your cousin and her husband bringing!?

Right! Ummm sorry, but this is a wedding, not a fucking house party. You can't just bring your whole social circle. I can't wait for the phone call to find out what this is all about.

pinkcow13

JCbride2015 said:

sarahufl said:

lol at your cousin. It is bad enough when people respond that their kid is coming, but who the hell are your cousin and her husband bringing!?

This is what I want to know.  Maybe they are in a poly relationship and have decided your wedding is the appropriate time to share with the family?

I posted before that someone we invited to the engagement party (we invited her and her boyfriend/husband, not sure what their exact status is) asked if she could bring her boyfriend. Not the dude on the invitation. And yes, she is still with original guy. She ended up coming with her son (that was fine, he got his own invite.)

FI's aunt also invited THREE other people to our engagement party, one we barely know! I'm sure she had a fun time calling them to uninvited them after FMIL (her sister, who hosted the party) yelled at her when she found out.

SBmini

I got one of those! My husband's cousin RSVPed for three. I asked his mom who the third person was. She called up- it was his wife's mom! Seriously. Who brings your wife's mom to your cousin's wedding? It not like she is senile and couldn't be left alone either. It was bizarre and my MIL was PISSED. But- it was her fault for not properly addressing the invites she insisted on handing out. (not saying that you made that mistake, just that she did) That old lady was a silent victory on my part. In this situation, I would not hesitate to call your cousin up and see who they plan on bringing.

climbingsingle

Wtf! So weird. Who is this mystery person?

theartistformerlyknownas

Sorry, it's me. I really wanted to come.

penguin44

My cousin RSVPed with a question mark. Why even RSVP? 

Yay cousins...

MamaAlly89

@lolo883 Well why didn't you just tell me! You would be welcome. Ill even let you have 2 pieces of cake! @penguin44 Why are our cousins so lost ...

AddieCake

That is very strange.

ShesSoCold

I RSVPed for 8 people to my brother's wedding. But only because he sent the invitation to FI "and guest" as a joke (I was in the wedding) so the RSVP was also clearly a joke.

This is strange. OP - are you going to call and let them know their mailman can't come also? I want to know who this third person is.

STARMOON44

Is your wedding perhaps in a park ? Could the third person be someone from your church you didn't invite who really wants to come ?

beethery

Lmao did your SIL initially shit a brick when she saw that number?

theartistformerlyknownas

schramm2407 said:

@lolo883 Well why didn't you just tell me! You would be welcome. Ill even let you have 2 pieces of cake!

@penguin44 Why are our cousins so lost ...

YESSSSS! CAKE!

lc07

Yes. I had a couple do this. And I figured out who the third person was and accommodated them. Then they turned up with 4 people instead of 3. 

Yup. 

And it wasn't 2 Lolos, unfortunately.

FiancB

Nothing weird for us, it's just that people apparently find it really difficult to send the damn thing back even when it's stamped and addressed and everything...

IMathlete

Our RSVPs were due April 30. My wedding date was May 31. On May 28 (yes, three days before our wedding) we received an RSVP from a guest, with some additional writing. Not only had she included a guest for herself (she was truly single, and a friend of my mom's, so she would have been surrounded by people she knew - she was not invited with a +1), but she had also written in that her daughter was having surgery the day before the wedding, but she hoped to come.

1) Does this mean your daughter is the guest, and she may not be able to attend due to surgery?
2) Does this mean YOU may not be able to attend, due to the surgery?
3) The wedding is in THREE days. I had called her to follow up, left voicemail...nothing.

In the end, my mom called her and said we could not accommodate her at that point.

ShesSoCold

beethery said:

Lmao did your SIL initially shit a brick when she saw that number?

Little bit. She read the RSVP number before she read who is was coming from so she said there was a quick moment of "who the fuck...oh. LOL". 

I just sent my invitations out and sent theirs to their 9 month old daughter "and chaperones". 

SBmini

IMathlete said:

Our RSVPs were due April 30. My wedding date was May 31. On May 28 (yes, three days before our wedding) we received an RSVP from a guest, with some additional writing. Not only had she included a guest for herself (she was truly single, and a friend of my mom's, so she would have been surrounded by people she knew - she was not invited with a +1), but she had also written in that her daughter was having surgery the day before the wedding, but she hoped to come.

1) Does this mean your daughter is the guest, and she may not be able to attend due to surgery?
2) Does this mean YOU may not be able to attend, due to the surgery?
3) The wedding is in THREE days. I had called her to follow up, left voicemail...nothing.

In the end, my mom called her and said we could not accommodate her at that point.

My sister/MOH asked me to invite her best friend from childhood to my wedding. I was close to the girl growing up, but we weren't even remotely close now as adults. But, I invited her because my sister asked.

No RSVP came back. I asked my sister to follow up, she did and said her friend "wasn't sure" and would get back to up the next day. She didn't get back to us. Days passed and finally, the week of the wedding, I told my sister that I was doing place cards and that she wasn't getting one. If she were to show up- she could sit at the kids table with the other children. My sister applauded my decision because she was pretty upset at her friend at this point too. 

She ended up being a no show. I think she got the message at that point.

ShallowSeas

We are sending out our invitations next weekend and I'm really worried this is going to happen.  On our RSVP cards we worded them as "We have reserved ____ seat(s) in your honor" and filled them in according to the number of people addressed on the envelope. We're hoping this helps, but I'm not holding my breath.

MamaAlly89

severmilli12 said:

We are sending out our invitations next weekend and I'm really worried this is going to happen.  On our RSVP cards we worded them as "We have reserved ____ seat(s) in your honor" and filled them in according to the number of people addressed on the envelope. We're hoping this helps, but I'm not holding my breath.

Yea, I probably should have done that.

MollyandD

JCbride2015 said:

sarahufl said:

lol at your cousin. It is bad enough when people respond that their kid is coming, but who the hell are your cousin and her husband bringing!?

This is what I want to know.  Maybe they are in a poly relationship and have decided your wedding is the appropriate time to share with the family?

I hope so. 

Sugargirl1019

We received several RSVPs that I would call "dirty". They certainly made me put on a "dirty look" reading them! I always hope it's not going to happen to you, but really, you're going to get at least one that will make you roll your eyes.

We invited a couple from down the street. The RSVP DOES in fact say "we have reserved two seats in your honor". They marked "4" in the "guests attending" box with a little note - "but they are only 2 and 3!! “

Oh heavens help me. Your children are not wanted at my wedding. Find a babysitter or don't come.