How to Handle Poor Rehearsal Dinner Ettiquette

indianaalum

IT's her brother. I love all these suggestions from a funny perspective, but i honestly do not believe people would actually follow through on half of these ideas in REAL life when it comes to their own brother. Some of these are relationship-ending ideas that will create way more friction than necessary.  Skipping your brother's rehearsal dinner because of something like this seems petty (I know OP isn't suggesting she do this, but many of you are) Let's keep in mind, YES, he had bad etiquette, but is is horrible enough to actually do soemthing that could destroy your relationship with your brother.??  I think not. 

It is ideal that it is a potluck? NO, but it's still your brother, so go to the RD and bring something easy and simple. Perhaps volunteer to bring pop, wine, or something simple. From my experiences, potlucks lead to excess food. If one person comes empty handed, it doesn't usually break the party. Explain to your brother the difficulty.

If you feel so strongly that it is rude, perhaps show up without food, but don't skip it. It is still your brother's big day and one day you would regret skipping part of his big day over bringing a 5.00 bag of chips or something. 

I do agree that if you have a close enough relationship with your brother tha you might say to him "the purpose of the RD is to thank them so potluck mgiht not be great"  point out it can be something cheap like pizza, or mexican or something like that.

Good Luck

zitiqueen

Bring potato salad. Because you know at least three other people are going to bring potato salad. Or a bag of oyster crackers. Somebody might bring soup, after all.

theartistformerlyknownas

indianaalum said:

IT's her brother. I love all these suggestions from a funny perspective, but i honestly do not believe people would actually follow through on half of these ideas in REAL life when it comes to their own brother. Some of these are relationship-ending ideas that will create way more friction than necessary.  Skipping your brother's rehearsal dinner because of something like this seems petty (I know OP isn't suggesting she do this, but many of you are) Let's keep in mind, YES, he had bad etiquette, but is is horrible enough to actually do soemthing that could destroy your relationship with your brother.??  I think not. 

It is ideal that it is a potluck? NO, but it's still your brother, so go to the RD and bring something easy and simple. Perhaps volunteer to bring pop, wine, or something simple. From my experiences, potlucks lead to excess food. If one person comes empty handed, it doesn't usually break the party. Explain to your brother the difficulty.

If you feel so strongly that it is rude, perhaps show up without food, but don't skip it. It is still your brother's big day and one day you would regret skipping part of his big day over bringing a 5.00 bag of chips or something. 

I do agree that if you have a close enough relationship with your brother tha you might say to him "the purpose of the RD is to thank them so potluck mgiht not be great"  point out it can be something cheap like pizza, or mexican or something like that.

Good Luck

The family isn't obligated to attend the rehearsal dinner - that should not be a relationship-ending move.