You guys are my sounding board for etiquette...So tell me if I'm right.
One of my friends got engaged the same time I did last year but they have no plans to get married. This spring, she invited me to dinner and told me they are getting married in 2 months at a private wedding, with just me and FI and children as guests. But she needed help planning. I agreed to help with planning since I'm planning mine anyway but didn't jump on a bachelorette party since she thought I could invite the regular crew...She suggested it and included my friends/families and I didn't feel it was right (plus they're my friends and family-and yes I bring the crew out for partying..but to me bachelorette are for people invited to your wedding or your friends/family-not mine).
I didn't feel like I should invite them out just so this bride can feel like it's her bach! Plus I thought it was weird that I was the only other couple invited, she has other friends she's closer to.
Anyways...I followed up with suggestions on places to buy a gown, searched for an officiant, offered to go shopping and help-though I admit my schedule was hard since I am planning my own wedding-but I did the best I could.
A few weeks later, we had dinner together with our FI. She told me they were postponing the wedding indefinitely. I accepted it and move on.
Then I find out through Facebook that she did get married on the day she originally told me....and there were 20 other people there. Thank you Facebook.
I was pissed that 3 weeks before she sat across from me and told me the wedding is on hold. I would be fine if she said she changed her mind, hurt but would've accepted it. She knows I know cause I congratulated her on Facebook. She still said nothing.
So I decided to end the friendship.
I respect the private wedding, but cannot get over that this girl ASKED me for help, then lied to my face. I have no idea what happened on her side. But I just can't, don't want to open a conversation with her. I just feel like it's up to her to make the effort and explain herself. Not for me to ask her why she lied.
I guess I'm just ranting, sorry for the long post. I just can't figure out what I did wrong or if I could have done anything differently.