My current "MOH" is someone I've known for over 6 years. She recently got married in December, and I was her bridesmaid. Her MOH kind of dropped of the face of the earth so I stepped up and took care of her bachelorette party and spent quite a bit of money. But I felt it was worth it because I knew that I would be getting married and that she would do the same of me.
It's been 6 months since her wedding and I stepped back to let her enjoy her new husband and home, give her some personal space, and a break from wedding stuff because I know it's difficult. In that time, she moved an hour away without telling me. (I found out via social media) And she never contacts me, I always have to contact her, whether it be about life to see what's up, or wedding stuff. I can't remember the last time we talked. I had gotten laid off of work and I had to contact her to tell her the wedding was temporarily delayed and she didn't see to have much to say.
Fortunately, everything is now smoothed over and my FH and I are able to move forward with our dream wedding. However, I want to drop my MOH. But here's the problem: Every time I seek advice from my mom on what the right thing to do is, she gets upset that I would want to fire my MOH, because my MOH was a close family friend. But my best friend, who is a bridesmaid, is so much more excited about the wedding and wants to talk it more than I do sometimes. I mean she's even started planning my bachelorette party!
I felt pressured into telling my current MOH that she was my MOH because in front of everybody while we were shopping for my dress she said, "I better be your MOH or your officiant." And I definitely didn't want her to be my officiant. And I was completely caught off guard and I just kinda let her take over that position. I know I should've stood my ground and told her that I haven't decided yet. But now I don't know what to do! How do I fire her without any hurt feelings? We haven't talked in forever but I know that it's still not fair to continue with wedding plans and just get married without her even knowing.