Alternative to Mother Son Dance

Kate&wyatt

My FMIL suffers from myopathy and is losing functioning in her legs. She already needs a wheelchair and the wedding is still over a year away.  I know by next year she will be unable to hold herself up.  I want to do an alternative to the mother son dance because I have been looking forward to the father daughter dance my whole life. I know she will not want to be the center of attention but I need a way to make her feel special and loved. Any ideas?

southernbelle0915

What does your FI and FMIL want to do? If they want to do some kind of dance, great. If they want to do nothing, fine.

I would talk to your FI first and let HIM talk to his mom. It's between the two of them and something they should decide. And don't push the decision - this is something you can decide to do/not do the day of if need be. 

mysticl

flantastic said:

Let them figure out what they want to do together; whether or not they do anything has no bearing on whether you're allowed to dance with your dad.

ETA: Does the "looking forward to the father daughter dance" part just mean that you feel for your FI and mom if that's not something they can do? I interpreted it as an implication of "both parent dances or no parent dances."

Me too.  I've been to plenty of weddings where there was only a father/daughter dance and no mother/son dance. As far as I know no one questioned it.