Angry!!!

MamaAlly89

Backstory: My parents divorced 2 years ago after 23 years of marriage. It was pretty ugly. My dad and I have never really been super close, but it is what it is.

Today I texted my dad since I haven't received his rsvp yet and it had been awhile since I'd heard from him. I said ... haven't received your rsvp yet, you are coming right?

His respond... Idk I haven't decided yet.

Seriously wtf. How long does it really take you to decide if you are going to go to your daughters wedding or not?

I am beyond fucking pissed right now.

pinkcow13

Wow, I'm so sorry

Were you planning on having him walk you down the aisle? 

JCbride2015

That sucks.  I'm so sorry.

Bubblegum5586

Wow! That is terrible! I am so sorry for this!

MamaAlly89

pinkcow13 said:

Wow, I'm so sorry

Were you planning on having him walk you down the aisle? 

No, my little brother is, but I had planned a father-daughter dance and everything else fathers are supposed to do! And now I feel kind of embarrassed because I made a point to include him in the wedding even though the rest of my family is mad at him.

slothiegal

Ugh I'm sorry hun.  That's seriously shitty.

Maybe you could do a different dance with an uncle who means a lot to you, or something fun with your little brother?

chibiyui

That sucks. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Personally, I'd respond back that "I'm sorry to hear that. But since the caterers need final numbers we'll have to put you down as a no. I'm sure someone will miss you"

But I'm a catty bitch and I stopped giving a fuck about what my asshole father thinks. Your mileage may vary.

pinkcow13

schramm2407 said:

pinkcow13 said:

Wow, I'm so sorry

Were you planning on having him walk you down the aisle? 

No, my little brother is, but I had planned a father-daughter dance and everything else fathers are supposed to do! And now I feel kind of embarrassed because I made a point to include him in the wedding even though the rest of my family is mad at him.

Like PP stated, maybe you can incorporate someone else that is meaningful to you for these. Again, I'm sorry your dad is being like this.

LabLove86

Yeah - thats a shitty situation. I'm sorry you're dealing with this right now. ::Hugs::

climbingsingle

That's messed up. I'm really sorry. 

FI's father doesn't know yet if he's attending our wedding. Some of it has to do with his diabetes, but I really think it's because he just doesn't want to travel. We've given him so many options. 

AddieCake

I'm very sorry. I know it must be very hurtful to have a parent not know if he is going to his child's wedding. 

MrsMack10612

I can relate. I had issues with my father leading up to the wedding. Including not knowing if he was going to attend or not. Don't give in to the BS; I know it's hard, but force his hand to make a decision like PP said.

FiancB

I'm sorry. I dealt with a lot of shit from my dad. He ended up coming but did not walk with me or dance with me. We just skipped it and I don't think anyone was really the wiser that hadn't already been told about our problems- I'm just glad I knew ahead of time that it was probably going to go down that way. Since all that I've decided to really distance myself from my BSC family. 

I told the DJ I wasn't sure if he was going to dance or not so to please check in with me before announcing a father-daughter dance. I went to ask and my dad said no so I relayed that to the DJ and we moved the fuck on. 

It sounds like in your case it probably has a lot to do with divorce, so maybe a mention of a seating chart may dissuade fears of having to chum with your mom would help. But it does seriously suck when grown ass adults can't just be mature and be happy for their kids for a day. Hugs. 

SBmini

Fuck him. Seriously. If he's still waffling over whether or not he wants to be there then you don't need him there! Everyone will recognize that he didn't make it and hate him for not being there. I would plan as if he won't be there. And after a stunt like that, I don't know if I would want to dance with him. Why honor a man who obviously isn't acting like a father?

MamaAlly89

Thank you guys for your support and kind words! I just feel really blind sided by this, and I think that's what makes it hurt so much. I guess better off I know now then on my wedding day!