PPD Etiquette

holyguacamole79

So, I've been lurking a bit (because, let's face it ... real work is boring).  My husband & I just got invited to a PPD.  Of course, they are spinning it as a vow renewal.  The couple are friends with DH and apparently had a JoP wedding a few years back and now want to "make it real".  I don't want to go, but DH does (and I've dragged him to enough weddings, so I guess it's only fair).

My question is this.  Do we bring a gift?  If so, what?  I don't think they are registered anywhere. 

OliveOilsMom

sarahbear31 said:

So, I've been lurking a bit (because, let's face it ... real work is boring).  My husband & I just got invited to a PPD.  Of course, they are spinning it as a vow renewal.  The couple are friends with DH and apparently had a JoP wedding a few years back and now want to "make it real".  I don't want to go, but DH does (and I've dragged him to enough weddings, so I guess it's only fair).

My question is this.  Do we bring a gift?  If so, what?  I don't think they are registered anywhere. 

Give them a nice vow renewal card.  I probably wouldn't give much else.  And since H wants to go so bad, make him get the card!

AddieCake

I would get them a restaurant gift card. 

RebeccaFlower

I would do more of a token gift. Wine & chocolate or maybe a Christmas ornament.

annathy03

Since your DH wants to go, I'd attend and treat it like a vow renewal.  For me, that would be picking out a bottle of wine I think they'd like and a card.  If they aren't drinkers, I'd give them something they could use for a date night, like a GC to a movie theatre or reastaurant.

climbingsingle

I would maybe do a card and bottle of wine or gift card. 

holyguacamole79

Cool - thanks!

csuave

There was a really similar post a few days ago.  In that one they were married much closer to the PPD date.

I think you should just go with how you feel.  If you are excited and happy to celebrate at a well hosted event because you care about these people then maybe you feel moved to give a gift. 

Any gift that is heartfelt will be appreciated (including a card or a nice note).  Personally, I want to be generous with the people that I am close with and I have never regretted being generous.

CMGragain

In general, vow renewals are not gift giving occasions.  If it is a PPD, they probably registered.  (They shouldn't!)

southernbelle0915

I'd probably give a vow renewal card and something small, like the bottle of wine others have suggested or a small gift basket with meats, cheeses, fruit, chocolate...