What happens the day after the wedding?

short+sassy

I'd definitely skip the baby shower, I'm sure FI's aunt will understand.

My day after was awesome.  Wedding was an early evening Saturday, but DH and I didn't leave for our honeymoon until Mon. morning.  We spent Sunday hanging out with family at my grandma's house.  My stepdad got a "taco package"...two different meats in pans, beans, rice, and tortillas...from a local, delicious Mexican food place and that was brunch.  With Mimosas, of course .

theycallmelinz

This may belong in an entirely different/new thread, but I'm curious about the etiquette of the day-after festivities. Does the couple need to pay for everyone to do breakfast/brunch? I'd love to spend more time with some of our OOTers, but I don't know that we could afford to take them all out for food... Thoughts?

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Well, if you host a party/meal/brunch for them, yes you have to pay. But if you just say that you'll be enjoying the hotel brunch around 11am, people who want to attend are free to join you and pay their own way. If your parents want to have a few people over to their place or your MOH wants to have the college gang over, you can attend either or both gatherings as guests.

PrettyGirlLost

mysticl said:

Sammyantha13 said:

We got a call from FI's dad today, who informed us that FI's aunt is pregnant.  (Yay!)  He said that she thought of having her baby shower the day after our wedding, on Sunday, since all the family will already be in town for our wedding.  So he wanted us to think about it and decide if it was okay with us since it is "our weekend." 

I said I have no problem with it, it makes sense since the family will be there, and I don't really know what goes on the day after the wedding--other than people leaving and cleaning stuff up/returning rentals, etc.  I did think that maybe FI and I would take our parents to a nice brunch as a way of thanking them for their help.  So in that case, should I call up FI's aunt to discuss that plan with her, to kind of ask her to make her shower for the afternoon so we can go to brunch, or is that rude?

The whole point of the having the shower the day after your wedding is because family will be in town.  If she holds off till afternoon they may not be able to attend because they have to get back home.  If you want to thank your parents you can do that at any meal so my suggestion would be see when the shower gets scheduled for and then work around that.  

ETA: Personally I'd be really annoyed to be asked not hold an event at a certain time on a certain day because it interfered with your brunch plans that only affect a total of 2 or 4 of the guests (depending on if it's a co-ed shower).  They may have asked you because they were wondering if you had an actual event planned for the next day (like brunch for the whole family), not because they didn't want to interfere with your personal plans.  They may even be assuming you aren't planning to attend since it is the day after your wedding.  

Then this woman shouldn't get upset if the Bride and Groom, and their parents decline this shower invitation.

I haven't been married yet, but I know that I wouldn't want to attend a baby shower the next day.  I'm going to want to unwind and asually hang out with/see family and friends off.