So the bulk of FI's guests are fraternity brothers. Most of them are married already, so they were very on top of RSVPs. However, he invited one single frat brother, who we'll call Brother Derpface from now on, who lives in our city, because he knew the guy would be offended if we held a wedding in our city, roughly 10 guys and their wives were in town, and he wasn't invited. RSVP deadline was about 2 weeks ago, numbers are due Friday. FI Facebook messaged him the day after, nothing. Waited 72 hours and this time emailed, nothing. Waited 3 days and had his big brother in the fraternity (also invited), call him. And FI called today... still no response. I can add guests up to 48 hours before the wedding. And if he decides to finally crawl out from whatever rock he's hiding under in the 48 hours before our wedding? We have to pay more for it. I don't want to pay more for this guest. Especially because he's a flake, and has totally left FI and another brother in the lurch after they bought baseball tickets in the past. FI and I are both offended at this point and kind of no longer want him there. But isn't it rude to tell him not to bother coming? He fits into the seating plan no matter what, and I can make an escort card for him without having to add him to the catering numbers just yet, but Brother Derpface really needs to get it together.
So how do we manage this?
Update: so we took your advice and FI called him and said, "Hi Brother Derpface, hope all is well. If you don't respond by Tuesday, we'll have to assume you're a no, and there won't be a seat for you." He called FI this morning, said he was sorry and had been waiting to hear on a schedule conflict, but it's no longer a conflict and he can come. F&#*! FI and Brother Derpface's big bro tried to contact him. CLEARLY he was getting these messages. And of course, instead of doing the reasonable thing and telling people there might be a conflict (which we would have been understanding of), he didn't tell anyone that and shut off all communication. OF COURSE! And then he said he'd like chicken and asked what we wanted from our registry. FI said, "whatever," because he was just so baffled, and within an hour, a place setting of china showed up as purchased by Brother Derpface. I'm so completely confused.