"Stag" party?

stef42188

ohannabelle said:

stef42188 said:

lilacck28 said:

stef42188 said:

These are SO common in CT. FI has been invited to like 5 of them in the past year. I think they are so incredibly tacky too. I do think it's funny though how things can be "regional", for example, I've never heard of bridal portraits or dollar dances until I came on this site. But, trust, people in New England do think these are tacky and for some reason go along with it. :-/

STUCK IN BOX

DUDE!!!! CT? I grew up in CT and live here now. I'm shocked to hear that this is common in the state. I had never heard of these types of parties until I came to the knot. And as I plan my wedding, I have not heard them mentioned by any one. And I most definitely find them baffling and tacky. 

It's mostly in New Haven county I think. FI says it's an old Italian thing (not so sure about this bc I'm Italian too and my family doesn't do these..). He goes to a few per year out of obligation, and was even asked last year to organize one by a groom. My dad has even gone to some of FI's friend's stags with him "for support" because it's "a thing guys do". I live in Fairfield county now and no one does them here.

Nooooo, don't blame the Italians! Never heard of this before the knot. 

When I was younger bachelor parties were called "stag parties," but they sure weren't fund raisers. 

Not blaming I'm Italian too, like I said, and we don't do them. You can blame us for Jordan almonds though.

And I had this conversation with my mom and she said that a bachelor party used to be called a stag (in this part of CT), but now it seems that for some guys, there's this stag thing that everyone gets asked to buy a ticket to and also a bachelor party that close friends go to.

lilacck28

I was from Fairfield County and fiance was from Litchfield County, but we currently live in Hartford County. I just asked fiance about this, and he said "Why would you do that??" My grandparents live in New Haven County, which was where they and my mom lived when my mom was getting married 30 or so years ago. No stag parties/ fundraisers for them either. Blegh. And I always considered my beloved state to be, on the whole, so refined... oh well. 

Kahlyla

daria24 said:

I wish there was a map with the "Stag & Doe belt on it. Because my friend in Erie, PA says they are very common, yet I don't think they are common anywhere in NY. Then they are common in CT, Western MA, and parts of Canada. 

HOW DID THIS SHIT SPREAD?

There is no such belt, I don't think - not really. A cousin from Northern Ontario, Canada just had one, and I know other people from the same town have had them... but the thing is, about half the people I know who were aware of this most recent Stag & Doe refused to buy a ticket or attend, didn't want to have anything to do with it. And several of the people who did attend seriously side-eyed it and spoke very poorly of it before and after, although they did go out of a sense of obligation. And those people are all from the same area - and those are just the ones who shared their feelings with me, randomly!

Heck, my brother in law and his girlfriend tried to tell us we should have one when we were planning our wedding - and not only did my now-husband and I recoil in horror, it turns out their mother also thinks it's a dreadfully tacky idea. Somehow they got it in their head while away at university that it was a cool thing to do. So even in the same family, opinions can vary. Just another example of how no one can truly read their guests' minds or profess to speak for all of them, imo.

AmaCassidy

In Britain they call Bachelor parties Stag parties, so i imagine that's where the name comes from, but you certainly don't have to pay to go to them. I'd never heard of a Stag & Doe, or anything you have to pay for until I came on this website, or Jack & Jill parties which all seem to be the same thing, though I have seen it crop up whilst I was lurking before.

Blue_Bird

I don't have anything helpful to contribute. I just couldn't stop myself:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bOR38552MJA&feature=kp

mrscomposer

They're called socials in Manitoba.  We don't have them in Alberta, where I'm from.  I don't understand them, and thankfully FI doesn't like them, so it wasn't even an option for us.

The bachelor parties are called stags here (and Alberta) - bachelorettes are stagettes or hen parties.

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

Thing is, even though Ontario Canada has them, not all of Ontario does.  I live in Toronto and they are pretty much non-existent, but in rural Ontario they were more common.  We've even had talks on other boards about selling tickets to these things at gas stations.  I get facebook invites from people I haven't talked to since high school (Im 31!!)

I was at a restaurant in my home town a couple weeks ago, ranting to my BM and her sister about it, when the waitress came up and said "Windsor Ontario (the southern most city in ontario, right on the US border) doesn't have them!" 

ETF: Words.  They suck.