Grrr... Pushy People Vent

jnrsgirl

I am thoroughly aggravated with pushy / nosey people. If you recieved an invitation, then you are invited and only those of you listed on the invite. Sorry but I do not want the random step children of your fourth marriage I have no association with much less their additional dates you insist they must bring at my wedding. It is a small close friends and family only affair (and child free!).

On top of the uninvited / unwanted addition attempts, my family continuously pests about the RD, making plans and who they are inviting. I'm sorry, but last time I checked the only people expected at the RD were WP or those who had a part in the wedding. Considering that I will escort myself, there is no WP, and the only person to have a role aside from B&G and the officant is FSIL who asked to do a reading for us, I highly doubt there will be a need for a RD.

I will never understand why people think that its acceptable to force their additional 10-15 uninvited guests onto the guest list to make it their party when it is someone else's wedding. If you didn't get an invite or you have been given no details about something, you probably are not invited. Ugh...

ETA because spelling is hard...

AddieCake

jnrsgirl said:

On top of the uninvited / unwanted addition attempts, my family continuously pests about the RD, making plans and who they are inviting. I'm sorry, but last time I checked the only people expected at the RD were WP or those who had a part in the wedding. 

There are some family members who are also often included. 

zitiqueen

AddieCake said:

jnrsgirl said:

On top of the uninvited / unwanted addition attempts, my family continuously pests about the RD, making plans and who they are inviting. I'm sorry, but last time I checked the only people expected at the RD were WP or those who had a part in the wedding. 

There are some family members who are also often included. 

And their SOs.

l9i

I can appreciate this.  Our RSVP deadine was Saturay so we've been dealing with a large part that never responded. Additionally, we'e dealt with a lot of add-ins like you described above.  People are ridiculous.  We decided in the half a dozen instances where people added others to let it go because we've got bigger fish to fry right now and we do have space. But still - let's add in your teenage daughter's BF, the second cousin's small child you never met, and the maybe your BF, but maybe your BFF depending on the day - awesome!  The lack of etiquette it making my head spin!  Hang in there!

jnrsgirl

My family and I are not close. Estranged parents and immediate family were invited solely because they are family even though they have made it clear they don't care to be involved in my life. Well that and inviting in circles. FI and I decided that inviting the extra 3 couples to complete the aunt and uncle circle was worth not starting WW3 with the family over leave those relatives out when other aunts and uncles were invited. That and grandma whom I love dearly begged us to give dad and his siblings a second chance.

I have seen these family members maybe a handful of times in the last six or seven years even though they live less than two miles from FI and myself and despite several attempts we have made for FI to get to meet / know my family.

If it were family members or friends who were more involved I would understand their questions about an RD. But when you have been virtually non-existent for over half a decade you have no right or place to expect to demand your own guestlist of RD atendees.

gladyscf

I literally had a client ask if he was invited to my wedding. 

Dead serious. A CLIENT!!!