Hi everyone!
To start, we are paying for the majority of our wedding, with my parents paying for flowers and cake and his family paying for the bar.
I'm running into a bit of an issue with my mom. In May, she decided she wanted to add 15 people to our completed guest list, which added 45 people once you add in families and SO. I stood my ground and told her nicely that the guest list was full, which made her mad. My fiancé has a very large, close family with 30-35 first cousins, and I have a very small family with 2 first cousins. Her solution was to cut his cousins to accommodate her coworkers, workout friends, and some random people I don't know. She hates her coworkers so I'm not really sure why she wanted to invite them, but that's really besides the point. At that point in time, she told me she was going to verbally invite people, and I looked her in the eye and told her "No, you are not. The guest list is full, and this conversation is over."
Well, I found out today that she has verbally invited people to our wedding, but I don't know how many. At least some of them are planning on attending. I can't figure out why you'd attend a wedding you don't have an invitation for. For the record, invitations aren't going out until the beginning of August.
So, my question is, what do I do? We have room for them (inviting 160 and fire code allows for 250), but we set a cutoff number, I/we don't want them there, and I clearly told her no. At this point, I don't trust her to tell them that we aren't able to accommodate them.