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southernbelle0915

Knottie38154882 said:

My finace and I are getting married in May 2015 and we're deciding on our honeymoon right now. We've decided on a location and have our top 2 hotels we'd like to stay at in mind. His parents are paying and want to take care of booking everything. 

I've been researching where we wanted to stay that fits within their price range of about $3500-$4000 for so long and have so many details about what we'd like. (ex. what kind of suite, ocean view balcony, honeymoon package that includes wine, rose petals, a romantic dinner for 2, and more) His parents want to go through a travel agent instead of expedia which is going to make it way more expensive so we might not be able to get everything we originally planned for...maybe not even the same hotel. 

Is it wrong that I'm kind of upset about this? You only get a honeymoon once (well hopefully lol) and i kind of wanted it to be how we planned. I feel like a bitchy spoiled brat right now.... I wouldn't mind helping them out financially if they couldn't afford it. It's just I'm afraid to bring it up because I don't wanna come off as unappreciative. Should I just let them decide all the details or would it be overstepping if I said something? 

You have two choices: be grateful that they're giving you a $4000 gift (holy shit that's nice of them!), OR tell them no thank you and you'll pay for the honeymoon yourselves.

You honestly do sound extremely spoiled and ungrateful in this post. Ugh - lots of people would love to have a honeymoon period and you're complaining that $4000 isn't enough? Would you seriously risk coming off as a spoiled brat and seriously damaging your relationship with your inlaws right off the bat so you can have an ocean view room and rose petals on your bed? Priorities.

You sound like you know this is BS so read through your post again and imagine its your future daughter in law talking about the honeymoon you're trying to generously gift to her and your future son. If that doesn't help the perspective, no advice you get here will...

freebread03

You do realize that Expedia is essentially an online travel agent right?  Travel agents are typically compensated by the resort, so you really shouldn't be paying more.  I think that if they're paying, then they get a say in how it's paid for (i.e. travel agent).  Either you pay for the trip yourself, or do it their way.

Knottie38154882

Thank you thats exactly why I didn't want to say anything. You're completely right.

Knottie38154882

freebread03 said:

You do realize that Expedia is essentially an online travel agent right?  Travel agents are typically compensated by the resort, so you really shouldn't be paying more.  I think that if they're paying, then they get a say in how it's paid for (i.e. travel agent).  Either you pay for the trip yourself, or do it their way.

My fiance and I checked out quite a few local travel agents in town and they were all a couple hundred dollars more than expedia. But anyway thank you for replying and I understand now that it's pretty stupid for me to feel that way.

lyndausvi

you do sound bratty.   

There is nothing that says you can't upgrade items on your own once the HM has been booked.

southernbelle0915

Crap I'm on my phone... Someone with a bat signal?

MobKaz

southernbelle0915 said:

Crap I'm on my phone... Someone with a bat signal?

holyguacamole79

Somebody call the whaaaaaaammmmbulance.

sophhabobopha

OP, you sounded like you took their words well. Why the DD?

Jells2dot0

Not addressing the disappointment of the OP, a message for lurkers and everyone alike: there are lots of travel agents out there- online (Expedia), specialists you can chat with, or even Costco. As with anything, there are good ones and bad ones. A good human specialist travel agent can get you the price you see online AND provide excellent guidance for your trip, including potential perks because of their relationships with suppliers!! I travel all over the world and having the guidance of an expert and someone who actually knows where the destination is on a map is very important

VulgarGirl

Jells2dot0 said:

Not addressing the disappointment of the OP, a message for lurkers and everyone alike: there are lots of travel agents out there- online (Expedia), specialists you can chat with, or even Costco. As with anything, there are good ones and bad ones. A good human specialist travel agent can get you the price you see online AND provide excellent guidance for your trip, including potential perks because of their relationships with suppliers!! I travel all over the world and having the guidance of an expert and someone who actually knows where the destination is on a map is very important

We plan most of our trips ourselves, because we don't go anywhere terribly exciting and usually we're going to see people we already know.

But I've always kind of wanted to plan a trip with a real human travel agent and I'm happy to hear that the experience can be as good as I imaged it would be. So thanks for sharing that info! 

That's all I had to say.

mlg78

Knottie38154882 said:

freebread03 said:

You do realize that Expedia is essentially an online travel agent right?  Travel agents are typically compensated by the resort, so you really shouldn't be paying more.  I think that if they're paying, then they get a say in how it's paid for (i.e. travel agent).  Either you pay for the trip yourself, or do it their way.

My fiance and I checked out quite a few local travel agents in town and they were all a couple hundred dollars more than expedia. But anyway thank you for replying and I understand now that it's pretty stupid for me to feel that way.

You should go into a meeting with a TA prepared with your research already done.  Show them what you found via Expedia.  They know darn well you're able to give your money to Expedia but they want your business so they can easily match those prices...and typically throw on some extras (like rose petals, champagne, etc.)

I hope you change your tune, however...  You sound very entitled and instead you should be over the top thankful for their generous gift.

doeydo

Knottie38154882 said:

Thank you thats exactly why I didn't want to say anything. You're completely right.

Knottie38154882 said:

freebread03 said:

You do realize that Expedia is essentially an online travel agent right?  Travel agents are typically compensated by the resort, so you really shouldn't be paying more.  I think that if they're paying, then they get a say in how it's paid for (i.e. travel agent).  Either you pay for the trip yourself, or do it their way.

My fiance and I checked out quite a few local travel agents in town and they were all a couple hundred dollars more than expedia. But anyway thank you for replying and I understand now that it's pretty stupid for me to feel that way.

JIC

jneen101

Is it wrong that I'm kind of upset about this?

Yes, absolutely.  Is there a reason you can't pay for whatever upgrades you want?