A Rant on Facebook Weddings + Invites

DaisyMaeMommy

purplepinkcupcake said:

DaisyMaeMommy said:

So far, the only wedding-related stuff I've shared is when I got engaged, and a picture of a hideous wedding dress that I posted and told everyone I was buying, haha... Other than that, I don't have a reason or need to post a bunch of wedding stuff. It's rude.

Me too! Engagement announcement and hideous dress. This one actually!!

Hahahahahahaha!!!

christinethebean88

I posted about the engagement and now and then I post a kind of count down related status about how fast the time is flying by, but I've never posted anything else wedding related.  I can't believe people would be rude enough to publish registry information on facebook, that's ridiculous!

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Wegl13 said:

... That's a wedding dress? Are you sure it's not a "don't do meth" ad?

Hahaha!!!

One of my guy friends posted the funniest comment on it...

"Someone should squeeze the rest of the toothpaste out of that tube. It doesn't look happy"

levieenrose

Yes, a FB wedding invite makes me wonder whether it's really meant to be an invite or whether it was just a "send all" wedding announcement.

I was super quiet on FB because it took us (me) over a year to finally settle on the guest list. Yes, a year of internal hand-wringing. DH was totally chill about it. I was the one who felt guilty for inviting fewer than every person we know or to whom we are related. Because obviously getting an invite is the be-all and end-all for every relationship...

But can you imagine how awful it would be to post about your wedding and then have people ask, "Oh, hey, am I invited to that? I am invited, right?" when you aren't prepared with the, "Yes, totally!" or the "We love you; but unfortunately, blah, blah, blah..."? Because what does an undecided response mean to your loved ones? It means: "Look, you are fantastic, but we have no idea right now whether you are important enough to us to get an invite. We have to finish tallying up our relationships with everyone else first." 

Better to keep quiet, let everyone forget about it while you do your [in my case, sometimes masochistic] preparations, and wait to post anything until you are finally prepared with an appropriate response. 

ETA: And obviously use taste when you finally make a post. Agree with all PPs to not overshare or make comments which will inadvertently make the non-invitees unhappy.