Confusion over thank you note

sarawifenow

First off, Happy Freaking Friday!!!

So my grandma is starting a tradition where she buys a kitchenaid mixer whenever one of her grandchildren gets married. As much as I have objected to such an expensive gift, she has her heart set on it. She absolutely doesn't want to pick it our herself and is insisting that I come with her to Macy's tonight to pick out the exact one that will work for FI and I. We are going to make a night of dinner and shopping out of it.

She has informed me that she isn't sure if she will give this to us as a shower or wedding gift. Soooooo....when do I write the thank you note? I know I am supposed to wait until I receive the gift, but I will be there with her when she purchases it and will help her load it into the car and then take it into her home for her so she can wrap it. I feel guilty not giving her a thank you note right away and don't want her to think I am ungrateful.

Any thoughts on this? Would it be weird to send a TY now and also a TY note for when I receive the actual gift? I was thinking that if I did the second note it would be a "thank you so much for coming to [insert either wedding or shower] and thank you, again, for the amazing mixer.

[Deleted User]

I don't see why you can't send her a thank you card now thanking her for dinner and the one on one time you got to spend her and that you look forward to having her there for these special events coming up. Then you can also send one when you actually receive the gift. The time and conversation that you will have with her tonight is a priceless gift.

sarawifenow

@Erikan73, thank you so much for that response! I agree spending the time with her tonight ispriceles. It is so nice to hear from other people who think of it as the same way. Do you think tht in my thank you note, I could slip in a "thanks for the mixer, too"?

IrishPirate60

When you receive the mixer, what a great opportunity to thank her again for time spent together, for her love and support over the years, AND for the mixer.

JCbride2015

I had a very similar issue with my wedding gown.  My grandmother took me shopping for it, we picked it out, she paid the deposit, but of course I won't see the actual gown until spring.  Knotties advised me to write a note now thanking her for spending the time together and for the dress.  Then write a second note when the dress actually comes in and I physically receive the gift.

My grandma was very happy to receive a note from me and I'm sure she'll be happy to get another one.

So yeah, go ahead and send a note now, thank her for the time together and the mixer.  Then thank her again after the party.  Grandmaseveryone loves TY cards.

[Deleted User]

I don't see anything wrong to putting in there that you're looking forward to getting the mixer.