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Given Away By Mom

I know that traditionally the Father gives away the Bride, but my Mother-In-Law wants to give away my fiance during the ceremony. I trying to figure out ways to do this nicely. any suggestions?! P.S. she has no daughters and states she always wanted to give one of her sons away & he's the first to get married.

Re: Given Away By Mom

  • Is this what your FI wants? If not, then he shouldn't do it at all. If he does want to do it, you'd just do it exactly like the father/bride give away:

    "who gives/presents this man to married to this woman" - officiant
    "I/we do" - mom/mom&dad

    And just in case they decide to do it, it does not mean you have to if you weren't going to in the first place. 
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  • I know that traditionally the Father gives away the Bride, but my Mother-In-Law wants to give away my fiance during the ceremony. I trying to figure out ways to do this nicely. any suggestions?! P.S. she has no daughters and states she always wanted to give one of her sons away & he's the first to get married.
    I think this is 100% dependent on what your Fi wants.

    If he is into it, just do it the same way a father would give away a daughter.  Many ceremonies don't include actually asking the father to "give away" the bride-- just a kiss on the cheek.  Your Fi could do this, just walk up with his mom, kiss her on the cheek, then she sits down and he stands at the top of the aisle.
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  • I think everybody needs to use the word "traditionally" more carefully.  Who's tradition are your speaking of?  There are quite a few cultures in which both parents walk the bride/groom down the aisle.  Some of those cultures also include the grandparents in the processional, which I think is lovely.  If you both have both parents, then why not use another culture's "tradition" and have everybody walk down the aisle?  If not, there should be no issue with FIs mom walking him, you could start a new family tradition.
  • I was just at a wedding on Saturday.  The ceremony started exactly as Southernbelle described.  It was lovely.  But make sure this is what your FI wants.
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