Do you think a bustle is necessary?

jenna8984

This is my dress (ignore the weird Russian writing, it's the only google pic I could find) So there is a train but it isn't massive. We're driving to the top of a local mountain and having the ceremony and pictures up there. So I'm already going to be walking around up there basically dragging it over grass, sand, rocks before we even get to the reception. Then the reception is just dinner in a restaurant- no DJ, dancing, cake cutting, etc. I went for my alterations appointment this past weekend and she pinned it for this complicated bustle for $150. I just don't know if I should even bother since I'm going to be dragging it over the mountain anyways, would it really be such a pain to just leave down for dinner too?

 

holyguacamole79

I suggest asking the seamstress for a more simple bustle. 

melbenso

If you don't bustle the dress, you run the risk of people stepping on your train at the reception and tearing the dress.  I second the suggestion to request a simpler bustle from the seamstress if the one she suggested is out of your price range.

jenna8984

It's satin underneath and lace overlay so she pinned it as two separate ones instead of all the material in one bustle. I can afford it and don't think it's unreasonable I just don't know if there's a need for it since the dress will already be dirty and I'm just going to be sitting there eating dinner, no dancing.

southernbelle0915

My dress had similar lines and a similar train (mine was only slightly longer). 

Definitely do a bustle. People will step on a train that long. 

ETF: I just realized you said there won't be dancing. I still think you will regret not having one. Not because the dress will get dirty, but because people will step on it, you'll catch it on chairs, etc. Just a good idea to have one. Especially if you can afford it. At least then you have the option to leave it down/put it up.

chibiyui

I'd say stains are easier to repair on a dress then tears. 

My dress was bustled, and people STILL stepped on it, I can only imagine how bad it would have been if it wasn't bustled.

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I would do a bustle or if it would work a loop to make it easier to carry when walking

QueerFemme

Get a bustle.  You will have people all over you, hugging you, talking to you, crowding you.  Someone will step on it, even though it's short and your dress can rip.  Even if you don't care about it ripping overall, you'll care if it tears it so much that you have to go take it off.

jenna8984

Ok good ponts everyone- thanks for the help!! Might as well have it!

tammym1001

In addition to what everyone else said, you will annoy the crap out of yourself because you will be stepping on it and tripping on it all night long. If you can afford the bustle then I would just get it. I had a similar train and had to do an under bustle on two layers. I still ended up stepping on it a couple time and tripping myself. I can't imagine what it would have been like if it wasn't bustled.

shaylagirl

My bustle basically "broke" during my reception and MAN was I pissed. I had to use that dumb loop, and it was annoying. It got in the way, I couldn't really hug people, my gown dragged all over the place, I couldn't really sit down because I worried about people stepping on my train or snagging it on the chair, etc, etc. My list of complaints goes on and on. Do yourself the favor; bustle. Dirty or not, it's just an annoyance to have to deal with your gown when trying to hug friends and family, or hold your wine glass, or eat, or just enjoy yourself in general.

rebeccaerbe

I had a ceremony and reception outside with no dancing just dinner. My dress was a ballgown with a long train and I was walking outside through dirt, rocks etc. and did not have a bustle and it was fine. Be prepared for your dress to get dirty but besides that it was not too much of a pain to deal with.

manateehugger

Get a bustle. I went to a wedding a couple months ago where the bride had a short train she didn't bustle. People stepped all over it on and off the dance floor. The poor girl kept getting yanked around and the dress was ruined. 

Also, do it for yourself. It felt SO NICE to have my dress bustled before the reception after I dragged it around all day. Freedom of movement. 

ElcaB

I think bustles are worth the price tag. Not only will people step on it, but I doubt you want the added possibility of it snagging on something or tripping you. Plus, think about visits to the restroom. Do you really want it dragging on a bathroom floor and being a huge hassle to lift up to pee? I don't think so. 

Can you find out if she's able to do a simpler, less complicated bustle to save money?

sarahs616

I say the bustle is definitely worth it... $150 seems pricy though!

cafarrie

I paid about $150 to bustle my ball gown with a fairly long train.  It broke within 5 minutes of dancing - tried 2 other times, and it broke.  I was a little frustrated, but used the loop for the rest of the night and it turned out fine!!!  

My point is, if money is no problem you may as well have it but it's not a huge deal if you don't because it may not stay anyway  

CMGragain

Unless you are having dancing, there is no good reason to bustle your dress.

Maggie0829

CMGragain said:

Unless you are having dancing, there is no good reason to bustle your dress.

Really?  So you just think it is fine to have the bride drag around a train while walking around talking to her guests and having it accidentally step on numerous times?  Also, those loops are uncomfortable depending on the weight of your train and all the time you are hugging people.

manateehugger

Maggie0829 said:

CMGragain said:

Unless you are having dancing, there is no good reason to bustle your dress.

Really?  So you just think it is fine to have the bride drag around a train while walking around talking to her guests and having it accidentally step on numerous times?  Also, those loops are uncomfortable depending on the weight of your train and all the time you are hugging people.

How about the fact that I loved the hell out of my train, but was tired of making sure it didn't caught on everything after a few hours of wearing it? And my dress was a fit and flare and would have looked ridiculous with a loop. 

Maggie0829

PDKH said:

Maggie0829 said:

CMGragain said:

Unless you are having dancing, there is no good reason to bustle your dress.

Really?  So you just think it is fine to have the bride drag around a train while walking around talking to her guests and having it accidentally step on numerous times?  Also, those loops are uncomfortable depending on the weight of your train and all the time you are hugging people.

How about the fact that I loved the hell out of my train, but was tired of making sure it didn't caught on everything after a few hours of wearing it? And my dress was a fit and flare and would have looked ridiculous with a loop. 

I'm not sure of many wedding dresses that would look good with a loop.  Especially if you have a ton of tulle and crinoline and lining and such under your dress.

southernbelle0915

CMGragain said:

Unless you are having dancing, there is no good reason to bustle your dress.

I disagree with this. When I was walking around visiting with people after the ceremony and at cocktail hour (before we bustled my dress), I caught my train on stuff, H stepped on it, guests stepped on it... I'm surprised it didn't rip. Once I got it up in a bustle, I didn't have these issues anymore and was able to stop worrying about it.

Also, I had a relatively short train. For brides with long trains, I could see this being even more  necessary.

HobokensFury

My cousin wore a similar dress. Her biggest regret of her wedding was not having a bustle.

QueerFemme

CMGragain said:

Unless you are having dancing, there is no good reason to bustle your dress.

I also disagree with this.  I had a bustle, and people were still stepping all over my dress.  Unless you are going to be sitting the whole time, bustle the dress.

sherakay

Hmm, look around for one of those Asian run alteration places and not a boutique. Found a great one by my house that does many wedding dresses and even makes chinese wedding dresses from scratch and I paid $10 for a bustle!!

CMGragain

OK.  I didn't have a bustle, or dancing, at my own wedding, and it wasn't a problem.  Chapel train.

sarahufl

Gorgeous dress. I had a similar train. She was able to do a 4-point bustle that looked great.

I would not have wanted to skip the bustle.