I asked my best friend and fellow soldier to be my Man of Honor at my wedding as soon as I got engaged. He promised to be awesome and be there for everything. He lives in California, but he promised to fly in any time I needed him. So far he hasn't attended anything. In fact, at my first bridal shower, he didn't even text me, call me, or anything. He just has disappeared, and let me down. I love him so much and he will always be my friend no matter what and he feels the same way, but I'm starting to think this position in the wedding just may be too much for him. One of my bridesmaids has really stepped up for me, basically accepting all the Maid of Honor duties. Now I feel like I should have them switch positions. I confronted my current Man of Honor about the whole situation. He knows that he has not been doing a great job so far. I asked what he wanted to give him to easy out in case he was having second thoughts too. Instead he tells me that he wants to still be the Man of Honor but he knows that he isn't doing a good job, and it's up to me to decide what to do with him.
I don't want to be a bridezilla or anything by changing them around, and I don't want to make the wedding day hurtful for him if I change them. But I really do think it would be better to change them around. Is it completely horrible of me to change them around three months before the wedding? Should I just stick it out with him as Man of Honor? How would I even tell him that I want him to just be a bridesman instead? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!