So... Purses?

thisismynickname2

I've realized I'm rather confused about wedding day purses.

Clearly the bride carts around a bouquet or nothing, so where does one keep an ID, emergency credit card, make-up, and other day-of essentials?

My mom already has a rather large evening bag and plans to have the "mom-purse" with safety pins and whatnot, but I will feel really weird if I don't have at least an ID on me.

I just bought a fabulous blue evening bag (not necessarily for the wedding, but it may match- we'll see when UPS delivers it!) and I'm not sure whether to entrust it to my sister (MOH) or what.

How'd you manage?

Thanks! 

JCbride2015

My friends who've gotten married have given some essentials to their mom or MOH, I think.  I have actually thought about this in regards to my venue, and figured I will probably bring my regular purse and leave it in the bridal suite.

Jells2dot0

I had a small evening bag that my mom carried around for me. I just found her whenever I needed anything out of it.

theartistformerlyknownas

That's what your H's suit pockets are for! ;-) Every fancy event ever my FI gets stuck with my lipgloss and ID in his pocket. I'll leave my actual purse in the bridal suite aka locker room (my venue is a golf club, it's not like a sketchy high school locker room).

beethery

I'm seriously considering getting a white fanny pack and clipping it around my chair under the chair banner things that I bought.

sarawifenow

@beethery, You could get a bedazzled fanny pack! Something like this...

holyguacamole79

I had a wristlet that held my ID, a credit card, phone, and lip gloss.  I kept it in the bridal suite during the wedding and had it at our sweetheart table for the reception.  I hardly needed any of it (except for the lip gloss!)

emmaaa

FI's pockets.

lyndausvi

It should be stated that I NEVER re-primp.   Like ever.  Once I leave the house that's it.  If my lipstick is gone a few hours later.  So be it.   Because of that I didn't find a need to waste money on a bag.  So all I brought was a LL Bean tote bag I got as a BM present a few years earlier.  

In the bag was:

a pair of flip flops (which I ended up wearing because my shoes hurt my feet)

pashmina in case it got cool

a normal coach wristlet that had my phone and wallet

lipstick.   Which I was told I needed, but I do not recall using it again.  Maybe I did after the ceremony?  Not sure.

That was it.    Now it should be stated that my SIL always carries a small sewing kit, so I didn't bother bringing one.    The bag was with my sister somewhere.   Not even sure where.  I changed my shoes almost right away so I never needed access to the bag until the end of the night.

climbingsingle

I plan on using a small clutch I have. 

beethery

SaraBrideSoon said:

@beethery, You could get a bedazzled fanny pack! Something like this...

festive as FUCK. In all honesty, I'll probably just have my MK wristlet on my chair.

tigersgirlgv

My biggest advice is whatever you choose to do, give it someone (mom, MOH, etc) to keep track of for you. Years ago at my aunt's wedding she lost her purse sometime during the night. It made for a great deal of panic during the wedding, as they were going out of the country the next day and her ID was in the purse. It was later found in a gift bag from one of their presents...

theartistformerlyknownas

beethery said:

I'm seriously considering getting a white fanny pack and clipping it around my chair under the chair banner things that I bought.

When I was a bridesmaid a few weeks ago, I hid my camera under the head table before the ceremony started, so I didn't have to worry about getting it from anywhere else once we arrived for the reception. I'm sneaky.

AprilH81

sarahbear31 said:

I had a wristlet that held my ID, a credit card, phone, and lip gloss.  I kept it in the bridal suite during the wedding and had it at our sweetheart table for the reception.  I hardly needed any of it (except for the lip gloss!)

This is what I did.  As the first course was served I went and got it out of the bridal suite (next door) and kept it at the sweetheart table.

I wanted my phone so I could change my name on Facebook and take a few selfies.  

jenna8984

AprilH81 said:

sarahbear31 said:

I had a wristlet that held my ID, a credit card, phone, and lip gloss.  I kept it in the bridal suite during the wedding and had it at our sweetheart table for the reception.  I hardly needed any of it (except for the lip gloss!)

This is what I did.  As the first course was served I went and got it out of the bridal suite (next door) and kept it at the sweetheart table.

I wanted my phone so I could change my name on Facebook and take a few selfies.  

I know people are probably like "you couldn't wait til you got home for that?" but I was already thinking the same thing....like it's a 15 minute drive to the reception, why the hell not?! lol

I had not realy thought of the purse situation but I'll prob just have my mom hold it at the ceremony and put it on my seat at the reception.

Peaseblossom55

I had a small purse that I put some cash, debit card, my ID, lipstick and powder in. I left in the limo during the church and it stayed in the bridal suite during the reception.  I used it at one point in the limo ride over to the reception to freshen up my lipstick that is all.

chibiyui

I had a tote bag I kept in the bridal suite, and a book clutch that held my phone and lipstick. I kept it on the sweetheart table most of the night.

manateehugger

I kept a clutch with me that had my ID, credit card, and lip gloss (at our table) during the reception, and I really shouldn't have even bothered. I don't think I ever touched it.

I had a duffel with everything else in it (clothes, shoes, etc.), that magically made it from the ceremony to the room the gave the wedding party at the reception venue. No idea who grabbed it, but it wasn't me.

On the ride to the reception, I realized I literally only had my bouquet in my hands.

VulgarGirl

My dress has pockets. 

I'm also thinking the wristlets we already own, I know one of FI's girls will probably have her regular purse with her, she might let us just toss them in there for during the ceremony and then we can get them out at the reception if we need them. 

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

I'm leaving my real big scary purse in the hotel room and giving my mother a cute little clutchy type thing I got  chapters.  In it I will have deodorant, lip stain, blotting papers, concealer, a panty liner, and whatever the heck else.  I am giving it to my mom to hold on to during the ceremony.  I just put it under my chair at the reception.  If I forget it, it isn't like my whole life is in there. 

wandajune6

It never occurred to me that I needed a purse. Crap.

We don't have a bridal suite, spare room, etc. So maybe I'll just leave my crap in a tote bag under the gift table? Still TBD....

AprilH81

jenna8984 said:

AprilH81 said:

sarahbear31 said:

I had a wristlet that held my ID, a credit card, phone, and lip gloss.  I kept it in the bridal suite during the wedding and had it at our sweetheart table for the reception.  I hardly needed any of it (except for the lip gloss!)

This is what I did.  As the first course was served I went and got it out of the bridal suite (next door) and kept it at the sweetheart table.

I wanted my phone so I could change my name on Facebook and take a few selfies.  

I know people are probably like "you couldn't wait til you got home for that?" but I was already thinking the same thing....like it's a 15 minute drive to the reception, why the hell not?! lol

I had not realy thought of the purse situation but I'll prob just have my mom hold it at the ceremony and put it on my seat at the reception.

****STUCK IN THE DAMN BOX****

Part of the reason I was in a "hurry" is because DH's first wife never changed her name on social media or legally because she "never found the time".  She was going to do it but never did.  She filed for divorce out of the blue just after their first anniversary...  

Even though I am not her and she is not me, I wanted to make that gesture to let him know I was in this for the long haul.

lyndausvi

AprilH81 said:

jenna8984 said:

AprilH81 said:

sarahbear31 said:

I had a wristlet that held my ID, a credit card, phone, and lip gloss.  I kept it in the bridal suite during the wedding and had it at our sweetheart table for the reception.  I hardly needed any of it (except for the lip gloss!)

This is what I did.  As the first course was served I went and got it out of the bridal suite (next door) and kept it at the sweetheart table.

I wanted my phone so I could change my name on Facebook and take a few selfies.  

I know people are probably like "you couldn't wait til you got home for that?" but I was already thinking the same thing....like it's a 15 minute drive to the reception, why the hell not?! lol

I had not realy thought of the purse situation but I'll prob just have my mom hold it at the ceremony and put it on my seat at the reception.

****STUCK IN THE DAMN BOX****

Part of the reason I was in a "hurry" is because DH's first wife never changed her name on social media or legally because she "never found the time".  She was going to do it but never did.  She filed for divorce out of the blue just after their first anniversary...  

Even though I am not her and she is not me, I wanted to make that gesture to let him know I was in this for the long haul.

you know changing your name and status on FB has nothing to do with being in the marriage for the long haul right?

Many women do not change their name and even more do not even have a social media account.  So your reasoning is a little silly.

   

AprilH81

lyndausvi said:

AprilH81 said:

jenna8984 said:

AprilH81 said:

sarahbear31 said:

I had a wristlet that held my ID, a credit card, phone, and lip gloss.  I kept it in the bridal suite during the wedding and had it at our sweetheart table for the reception.  I hardly needed any of it (except for the lip gloss!)

This is what I did.  As the first course was served I went and got it out of the bridal suite (next door) and kept it at the sweetheart table.

I wanted my phone so I could change my name on Facebook and take a few selfies.  

I know people are probably like "you couldn't wait til you got home for that?" but I was already thinking the same thing....like it's a 15 minute drive to the reception, why the hell not?! lol

I had not realy thought of the purse situation but I'll prob just have my mom hold it at the ceremony and put it on my seat at the reception.

****STUCK IN THE DAMN BOX****

Part of the reason I was in a "hurry" is because DH's first wife never changed her name on social media or legally because she "never found the time".  She was going to do it but never did.  She filed for divorce out of the blue just after their first anniversary...  

Even though I am not her and she is not me, I wanted to make that gesture to let him know I was in this for the long haul.

you know changing your name and status on FB has nothing to do with being in the marriage for the long haul right?

Many women do not change their name and even more do not even have a social media account.  So your reasoning is a little silly.

   

Yes, I know that it "means" nothing in the long run.  

It was a gesture I made for DH because of his past experiences.  I had already decided to change my name so if it made him happy to see me do it on Facebook after we were done with our pictures and before we entered the reception what harm does it do?

thisismynickname2

@PDKH if I suddenly realized I didn't have a purse, I think I'd panic.

Similar to how I arrived at work today and realized I'd left my lunch, in a nice lunch tote, on the bus.  

This is all very useful! Travel-sized stuff to freshen up can be left with my mom in her purse, and I can leave an ID/credit card in FI's pockets in case we're all too drunkity-drunk to exchange belongings at the end of the night.  

Thanks all! 

lyndausvi

AprilH81 said:

lyndausvi said:

AprilH81 said:

jenna8984 said:

AprilH81 said:

sarahbear31 said:

I had a wristlet that held my ID, a credit card, phone, and lip gloss.  I kept it in the bridal suite during the wedding and had it at our sweetheart table for the reception.  I hardly needed any of it (except for the lip gloss!)

This is what I did.  As the first course was served I went and got it out of the bridal suite (next door) and kept it at the sweetheart table.

I wanted my phone so I could change my name on Facebook and take a few selfies.  

I know people are probably like "you couldn't wait til you got home for that?" but I was already thinking the same thing....like it's a 15 minute drive to the reception, why the hell not?! lol

I had not realy thought of the purse situation but I'll prob just have my mom hold it at the ceremony and put it on my seat at the reception.

****STUCK IN THE DAMN BOX****

Part of the reason I was in a "hurry" is because DH's first wife never changed her name on social media or legally because she "never found the time".  She was going to do it but never did.  She filed for divorce out of the blue just after their first anniversary...  

Even though I am not her and she is not me, I wanted to make that gesture to let him know I was in this for the long haul.

you know changing your name and status on FB has nothing to do with being in the marriage for the long haul right?

Many women do not change their name and even more do not even have a social media account.  So your reasoning is a little silly.

   

Yes, I know that it "means" nothing in the long run.  

It was a gesture I made for DH because of his past experiences.  I had already decided to change my name so if it made him happy to see me do it on Facebook after we were done with our pictures and before we entered the reception what harm does it do?

 It's just that your statement implies that if you do not change your name or your FB status then you are not committed for the long haul.      

Those of us who choose not to change our names have to fight the stigma that if we don't change our names we are not committed to our marriage.  Which is complete BS.

I'm sorry your husband had a bad first marriage, but her level of committed had nothing to do with last names or FB statues.   If you wanted to change your name great.  But I think the reason is because the ex -didn't is stupid.  You are different people and she was under NO obligation to do so.  It's her name and she can do what she wants with her name.

Cookie Pusher

I had a small clutch bag. Most of the things I needed besides my makeup were already in the bathroom baskets I made, so I didn't need to worry about essential-type items. I had multiple dresses and no bridal suite, so those ended up in my mom's car along with a tote bag that had the tip envelopes for the staff, the timeline for the day, and a copy of our toast. In the rush of all the things going on through the day, the only thing I ended up using was lipstick, which I ended up carrying around in my bra.

AprilH81

lyndausvi said:

AprilH81 said:

lyndausvi said:

AprilH81 said:

jenna8984 said:

AprilH81 said:

sarahbear31 said:

I had a wristlet that held my ID, a credit card, phone, and lip gloss.  I kept it in the bridal suite during the wedding and had it at our sweetheart table for the reception.  I hardly needed any of it (except for the lip gloss!)

This is what I did.  As the first course was served I went and got it out of the bridal suite (next door) and kept it at the sweetheart table.

I wanted my phone so I could change my name on Facebook and take a few selfies.  

I know people are probably like "you couldn't wait til you got home for that?" but I was already thinking the same thing....like it's a 15 minute drive to the reception, why the hell not?! lol

I had not realy thought of the purse situation but I'll prob just have my mom hold it at the ceremony and put it on my seat at the reception.

****STUCK IN THE DAMN BOX****

Part of the reason I was in a "hurry" is because DH's first wife never changed her name on social media or legally because she "never found the time".  She was going to do it but never did.  She filed for divorce out of the blue just after their first anniversary...  

Even though I am not her and she is not me, I wanted to make that gesture to let him know I was in this for the long haul.

you know changing your name and status on FB has nothing to do with being in the marriage for the long haul right?

Many women do not change their name and even more do not even have a social media account.  So your reasoning is a little silly.

   

Yes, I know that it "means" nothing in the long run.  

It was a gesture I made for DH because of his past experiences.  I had already decided to change my name so if it made him happy to see me do it on Facebook after we were done with our pictures and before we entered the reception what harm does it do?

 It's just that your statement implies that if you do not change your name or your FB status then you are not committed for the long haul.      

Those of us who choose not to change our names have to fight the stigma that if we don't change our names we are not committed to our marriage.  Which is complete BS.

I'm sorry your husband had a bad first marriage, but her level of committed had nothing to do with last names or FB statues.   If you wanted to change your name great.  But I think the reason is because the ex -didn't is stupid.  You are different people and she was under NO obligation to do so.  It's her name and she can do what she wants with her name.

I'm sorry, that was not to imply that the reason the marriage failed was because she didn't change her name.  That is not the case and of course women (and men) have the right to make the decision of what to do with their name.

In DH's case the first wife agreed to change her name but "never had the time" to do it legally or socially with her social media.  That hurt DH deeply and to him it became a symbol that she wasn't really in the relationship for the long haul.