Fund me!!

theycallmelinz

Clearly I've yet to get off TK and do my job (in case you saw my earlier post), but now I've been distracted further by someone on my newsfeed requesting money. She's asking for help moving across the country to go to vet school, and she posts an update every time someone donates. If you click on the link, you will find this lovely description of her request for funds:

"My classes at UC Davis School of Veterinary Medicine begin August 11th. So I will be leaving Birmingham on August 6th with a Uhaul full of stuff, 2 cats and a dog heading for the west coast! I can use all the help I can get for gas money to get out there! 

I appreciate everyone's financial and emotional support during this exciting time! Nothing says, "I'll miss you!" and "Good luck!" like $20!!

Unfortunately your donation on this website is not tax-deductible because it is not for a non-profit, but I can promise you that your money will be put to good use! I will pay a few fees to use this website and a small fee to accept credit card payments, but then the rest will go directly towards my moving expenses for the trip!
Every dollar helps! I can't thank you enough for your donation!

THANK YOU!!"

Does anyone else find this incredibly rude? I'm sorry it's going to cost so much for you to move across the country, but its time to put on your big girl panties and start providing for yourself. If someone wants to give you money to help on your journey, that's kind. But you asking for them to? Not so much. And I can think of plenty of things that say "I'll miss you" and "Good Luck!" besides giving you $20. For example, using those exact words would get the message across I think.  

I'm being extra ranty today. I'll blame it on my monthly.

JCbride2015

Gross.  That professional education will give her plenty of return on investment.  Take out a student loan and stop harassing your loved ones for money.

KatieinBkln

This is definitely not "just you." It is the tackiest shit ever, objectively.

wandajune6

That's awful. Most of us take out student loans. It's part of life.

kat1114

Yes, it is incredibly rude! I don't understand why it is suddenly acceptable to ask other people to pay for your life choices. A co-worker started a gofundme for another co-worker going through a divorce. 

beethery

Rude as hell. My cousin went to vet school in the Bahamas and she didn't ask anybody for a dime because she knows it's a dick move.

theycallmelinz

beethery said:

Rude as hell. My cousin went to vet school in the Bahamas and she didn't ask anybody for a dime because she knows it's a dick move.

If I went to vet school in the Bahamas I'd probably flunk out because I spent all my time at the beach haha

sarawifenow

This is ridiculously rude! I don't understand some people's logic.

southernbelle0915

Shameless. I'm embarrassed for her - why do people not realize how ridiculous stuff like this makes them look?! Whyyyyyyyyyyyy??

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

Shameless, indeed.  Take out a student loan, gawd.  You might as well be hanging outside of starbucks, asking for change.

ETA: That sounded more mean than I meant it.  Now I feel bad.

VulgarGirl

So...did it just occur to her that cars need gas to run? Not hopes and dreams? Because if not, you'd think at some point between apply to, getting accepted at, and planning a move to, UC Davis, she'd oh I don't know...save some money? For gas and shit. That's how grown folks do it. 

If this is news to her...how the fuck did she get into UC Davis and should we let her drive a car?

sophhabobopha

Take out a loan, bitch. I've got tons of them.

jenna8984

I have seen others as well where there is a new recent grad who just landed a new position across the country and needs help raising funds to get there. Why the F do people no longer PLAN and BUDGET for things?! When I was in college, I was absolutely dead set on graduating and moving across the country (to get away from snow). You know what I did? I took full time class schedule and worked two part time jobs almost totaling a full time job and one paid for my groceries, car, cell, etc and the other paycheck all went into a savings account to move. I paid for my own flights out to interview and landed a job and paid about $4k of my own money to move out there upon graduation. I would never in a million years have asked anyone for money. A few friends took me out to a goodbye dinner and I was touched that they refused to let me pay.

jnrsgirl

Shamelessly rude... Not to mention tacky! Ugh!

thisismynickname2

To be fair, the student loans won't kick in until she starts. 

Until then? Credit card.  No credit card? Well isn't this a circle of hell where she needs funds for stuff like gas because she sucks so much at finance she can't even get a credit card. 

beethery

lynze425 said:

beethery said:

Rude as hell. My cousin went to vet school in the Bahamas and she didn't ask anybody for a dime because she knows it's a dick move.

If I went to vet school in the Bahamas I'd probably flunk out because I spent all my time at the beach haha

She loved the area but she really missed home, and her husband. Plus she wasn't allowed to work while she was there so she had no money at all and it bugged the shit out of her.

MamaAlly89

Um maybe if she couldn't afford to move across the country she should have picked a school closer to home. Rude.

grumbledore

Next time I see one of these, I'm going to post, "Fund you?  Fuck you."

raissyrais

How tacky. I would rather respect them honest exotic dancers shaking their bum bums to pay for their education.

JasperandOpal

I always wonder what is going on in people's heads when they make these things.  For a couple months my FB page was inundated with them, and I slowly weeded out the culprits and hid their posts.  

Don't people realize that EVERYONE has something they would love to have if someone else was footing the bill?  These funding things have gotten out of control.

ashley8918

NO NO NO!

One of my Facebook friends has been pimping out a GoFundMe for SIX MONTHS for $1000 to fund her Volunteer trip to Sri Lanka. Key word, girl-VOLUNTEER. You chose to do this, and while I think it's great that you are going to save the children or some shit, pay for it your damn self!

I have donated to two "GoFundMe"-type things. 1 was for a friend's child's funeral after his sudden, tragic drowning. The other was for a well-known and loved community member's cancer treatments when he lost his job. Neither one was started by the beneficiary, and they helped fulfill an actual NEED.

hellosweetie1015

FIRST CHANCE TO USE THIS:

No but seriously. Student loans. For real.

mysticl

kat1114 said:

Yes, it is incredibly rude! I don't understand why it is suddenly acceptable to ask other people to pay for your life choices. A co-worker started a gofundme for another co-worker going through a divorce. 

I've heard of offices taking up a collection to help a co-worker who going through a tough time and a divorce can cause some serious financial hardship.  So maybe the person who started the gofundme thought of it as the same thing as passing the hat.  

Viczaesar

My hometown has a "You know you grew up in X when..." Facebook page (2, as a matter of fact).  This week there has been a discussion about whether it's appropriate to post funding requests on the page; this was centered around a GoFundMe for funeral costs for a 15 year old who killed herself and her teen passenger in a car accident on Friday.  Yesterday I noticed another GoFundMe-type fundraiser posted raising money for a teenager to go to South America to participate in a dirt bike race. 

WildMagelet

Yeah...I have two of them presently be spammed on my newsfeed for the past week or so.

One is being spammed by people on my f-list for a girl I met once. She doesn't have a driver's license and apparently needs help paying for driving school in order to get a job. Here's an idea, take public transportation or find something within walking/biking distance and then pay for your own classes! Lots of people without their own vehicle magically make it to work every single day.

The other one is for an acquaintance whose car broke down and needs to get hers fixed or replaced. I feel less ucky about this one, as she's actually going out of her way to get extra funds to be able to pay for it herself (cutting back expenses and picking up an extra PT job). I think she made the GFM mostly because the other girl made one.

LondonLisa

It is rude, but I have come to realise that the internet has made it ok to do things that you would be embarrassed to previously do. For fundraisers like this I have a "table outside the shop" test. Would you be ok to set up a table outside a shop and actively asking people to donate towards this cause? For things like the red cross, of course, that is fundraising. Or would you be shocked if someone came up to you on the street and said "donate to my school fees" or "donate to my wedding". I wish more people would ask themselves this question.

People like this have no shame.

Wegl13

By the way there are not one, but TWO veterinary schools in the state of Alabama. One of them is public, 2 hours from Bham, easier to get into than Davis, and has a low cost of living (war damn trailerhood). It's possible she's not an Alabama resident and was going to school in Birmingham but... Seriously, you save about 200-400 grand by staying in state. And as a vet, that's not a loan size you want to have.

On an unrelated note, I would really be okay with the gofundme for driving school. People assume public transportation is this super easy thing... But it isn't. Many communities simply don't have it. My fiancé just moved into an area where it does, and taking the bus adds about an hour to your commute each way, and of course it only runs certain times and goes certain places, so I hope there's a job waiting at the other end with a flexible schedule. Which there might not be.

theycallmelinz

Wegl13 said:

By the way there are not one, but TWO veterinary schools in the state of Alabama. One of them is public, 2 hours from Bham, easier to get into than Davis, and has a low cost of living (war damn trailerhood). It's possible she's not an Alabama resident and was going to school in Birmingham but... Seriously, you save about 200-400 grand by staying in state. And as a vet, that's not a loan size you want to have.

On an unrelated note, I would really be okay with the gofundme for driving school. People assume public transportation is this super easy thing... But it isn't. Many communities simply don't have it. My fiancé just moved into an area where it does, and taking the bus adds about an hour to your commute each way, and of course it only runs certain times and goes certain places, so I hope there's a job waiting at the other end with a flexible schedule. Which there might not be.

You had me at "War Damn"

Wegl13

There's a reason for my handle. Who doesn't love "bodda getta?" [edit to add: I am waiting for "rolltidebride" to come disagree with me, please tell me she exists!] But I digress. School is expensive. I was lucky to have my parents help me out, and there was one point that I thought I might need a loan from them to help me make it through the period between your rent being due and your loans coming in. But one thing we learned in school: "lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine."

hellosweetie1015

...there are actually two about two hours from B'ham! Tuskegee has a vet school as well as Auburn. I dunno if Tuskegee is public (I'd assume so, but I could be wrong) but it's supposed be a pretty good school as well. 

Also, I feel a little like decent public transport is more of a luxury than some people realize. I LOVE NYC's subway system, at least as far as I've gotten to use it (I'm a big fat country tourist). Podunk, Alabama's answer to MTA (or even its crazysauce cousin, the MARTA system in ATL): a few aging short buses that you're lucky to get anywhere on. I wouldn't trust them as far as I could kick them. Also - most of the people in my area do not live within its range. So if the driving school one were in my area, and I had money to give them (HA!), I might support that.

But for real. As a general rule, unless it's some actual dire situation that completely blindsided you (which moving to CA from AL is not, sorry honey), in the words of Sweet Brown: "ain't nobody got time for that."

Unrelated - WDE, @wegl13!

theycallmelinz

Ahhh 2 Auburn fans!! WDE! Did y'all catch the ESPYS last night? Pretty sweet!