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I should have trusted my gut instinct. (Vent)

edited July 2014 in Chit Chat
To summarise, our photographer is a flake and hasn't been overly professional. Part of me was wary in the beginning, but she was nice and got me to relax in front of the camera, which isn't easy, so we went with her.

Her work is very good. However, she has been a PITA to deal with for the past few months -- from just before the wedding, continuing through the 6 - 8 weeks since.

Examples include us having to purchase a guestbook the week before the wedding because the photo guestbook included in our contract with her wasn't ordered in time and didn't ship in time... simply because she forgot about it. On the day of the wedding, she spent half the time flirting with one of our guests, and other guests complained about having to see her underwear hang out of her pants every time she wasn't fully upright. We also have a LOT of videography footage showing her just standing around, eating our hors d'oeuvres and chatting away, rather than taking photos (she was tasked with taking candid shots during the remainder of cocktail hour, after we finished our posed shots on-site).

A month or so after the wedding, she told me she'd be leaving to go on vacation for a few weeks, and that would delay the editing of our photos. I asked how long a few weeks was so that I could adjust my expectations and let family members know who intended to purchase photos, and she replied with, "a few weeks." When I asked when she would be leaving, she told me she was leaving the next morning. Apparently, the trip had been booked for months, but she didn't feel the need to tell her clients until the day before, and wasn't telling anyone when she would be returning.

A couple of weeks ago, she returned and told me the edited photos were ready on a USB, and we could pick them up and give her final payment. I've spent the last 2 weeks trying to coordinate a date with her, and it's been a headache and a half. Hubs and I have been totally free every evening this week, save for one, and are more than willing to come to her. Our only stipulation has been that we need 24 - 48 hours advance notice because we need to withdraw money from a bank account that requires us to go to an actual teller on a weekday, during regular business hours, and we need to make time in our workday to do that because we can't do it after work or on a weekend. This has proven to be an impossible task because the photographer has been flaking on replying to my e-mails for days on end, despite going out with mutual friends, updating her FB page with other people's wedding and engagement photos (indicating that she's clearly working currently), and having previously indicated that she's awaiting my response on which days work best for us. If you don't know what works for you, that's fine -- just send me an e-mail back saying, "My schedule is really up in the air right now, so can I get back to you on [this day] when things calm down?"

When she does finally respond, it's clear that she hasn't read a word I've typed because she always agrees to the opposite of what I've said, or doesn't understand why we need so much advance notice. Today, she actually told me, "You should be able to just walk into the bank and get money on the spot." Um, I'm fairly certain that you shouldn't be speaking to a client in that manner. I shouldn't have to justify where we're getting the money from, or how we're getting it; the fact is that we have it, we need to get it, and we need to give it to you and get our photos in return. Just answer my e-mails (or pick up your phone when I call you!!!) and pick a freaking day!

Ugh. End rant.

Edited because spelling is hard when you're angry.


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Re: I should have trusted my gut instinct. (Vent)

  • Ugh.  That's so frustrating.

    I would want to call her, but honestly you probably want everything in writing at this point.  Could you just email her and say, 

    "We are available on X, Y, Z evenings from 6-8pm.  Please let me know within 24 hours which of these dates works for you.

    If you cannot be available for us to pick up the drive, we are happy to mail you a check once we receive the USB in the mail.  It is unacceptable that we've been waiting so long, and if you can't arrange to meet us, we need you to just mail the drive."

    This is so weird... I mean, wouldn't she want to meet with you ASAP to get her final payment?  Also, I'd make sure you look at the photos before paying her, to make sure she actually lived up to your contract.
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  • What a rude biatch! 
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    She does sound like a PITA. Why can't you take out money today and hold onto it until you see her to pay her, though? That way you can meet last minute if need be.
  • So...does she only take cash or something? I would just show up at her place with a check, personally.

    Sorry you're going through this. She does not sound professional in the slightest.
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  • We agreed to pay her in cash when we signed the contract because she agreed not to charge us tax if we did (tax here is 13%). The balance is a fair chunk of change (about a third of the total package price), and we'd rather not have that sitting around the house if it's going to be more than a couple of days before we see her. We've made our availability very clear, and I work near her home and her office and have even said, "I can swing by any day after work (ie: after 5pm), save for Tuesday," and we've still ended up in this mess. We've seen about 100 photos as a preview and they're good, but there are 600 or so total and I'm going to be super anxious until I have them all in my hand.


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  • I would try calling her instead of emailing again. Pick a date and say "I can drop by on Monday at 6 pm, does that work?" That way you can discuss it instead of awaiting an email that doesn't give you the answers you want.

    I'd also put this in reviews after you get your pictures.
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  • I would try calling her instead of emailing again. Pick a date and say "I can drop by on Monday at 6 pm, does that work?" That way you can discuss it instead of awaiting an email that doesn't give you the answers you want. I'd also put this in reviews after you get your pictures.
    The problem is that she not only returns e-mails on a whim, she also screens calls and hasn't been picking up.

    Yelp (and similar sites) isn't huge in our area, so I can leave a bad review for her on that, but it'll be the first one. I also checked our local BBB and she's not registered there, but that's also not uncommon around here. Canada is also a little scarce when it comes to sites that amass wedding vendor reviews and referrals, so my options are a bit limited. I'll do what I can, but there isn't much available.


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  • Eeesh she sounds horrible! I have to agree with PP that you should ask to see the photos before paying her. It sounds like there's at least a possibility that she didn't live up to her end of the contract. 
  • Can you send an email that just says "Look, we have been trying to arrange to meet up and you have been unresponsive about an exact date.  Can you just mail me the flash drive via overnight mail?  I will then send you a bank check for the balance?"
  • I'd really love to know where in Canada you're located  so I don't accidentally book/ recommend this woman. 
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  • jenbaer16 said:
    I'd really love to know where in Canada you're located  so I don't accidentally book/ recommend this woman. 
    We're in Southern Ontario (ie: south of Toronto). If you're in that area, I can PM you her details so that you can avoid like the plague, and recommend some much, much better choices I've come across since planning/getting married.


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  • Try calling from another phone, like a friend's house? That way she won't know it's you ;)

    I'm also Canadian, and I had trouble finding reviews. I ended up just googling my photographer's name and finding some on various sites. She directed me to reviews on wedding wire as well.
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  • jenbaer16 said:
    I'd really love to know where in Canada you're located  so I don't accidentally book/ recommend this woman. 
    We're in Southern Ontario (ie: south of Toronto). If you're in that area, I can PM you her details so that you can avoid like the plague, and recommend some much, much better choices I've come across since planning/getting married.
    Ah, I'm just outside Ottawa. Not likely I'd come across her. Thanks though!
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