I've been reading up on etiquette regarding bridal showers & eloping. My fiancé & I have been engaged for about a year and have been planning a December wedding. I just recently started planning (last month) due to school & work; I am gradating from nursing school in the winter. We have decided that a private wedding, with just the two of us, our dog and a few close family/friends is best for us. The problem you ask? My aunt and mom started planning a bridal shower for us three months ago. I have always vocalized my feelings about wanting to either elope or have a private wedding, but I keep changing my wedding plans to try and please everyone else. Can we have a bridal shower & still go away to get married? Invited are out. RSVP's have been made & our shower is less than three weeks away. Is this okay to still have a shower? I need advice!!!