Never mind

mamahappy · July 2014

Nevermind

pearlsofsteel · July 2014

Wait, you aren't her best friend but you're the MOH? I'm going to assume she thinks you two are best friends...

mamahappy · July 2014

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CMGragain · July 2014

You are not obligated to attend either the shower or the bachelorette. However, the bride may understandably disappointed if you do not attend. The opinions of the other bridesmaids are irrelevant. Talk to your half sister, and explain your problem. She may be sympathetic.

pearlsofsteel · July 2014

mamahappy said:

pearlsofsteel said:

Wait, you aren't her best friend but you're the MOH? I'm going to assume she thinks you two are best friends...

I'm her MOH because I'm a family member (she is my half-sister). We're friends, don't get me wrong. We get along great. But we're not "best friends". I'm 10 years older. We see each other 1-2 times per year at family functions. I'm not sure how else to explain it.

Well, look, it sounds like you aren't the one planning the party. You are not obligated to go but I'm sure she would appreciate your presence. You should be prepared for maybe her being a bit miffed by it but someone will talk her down. You're OOT, you can't be expected to be involved with everything and I'm sure that is something she considered when she asked you - she may not even be caught off-guard by it.

If you feel bad and want to do something special for her, maybe find out the plans and arrange to have a bottle waiting for her or send her a little gift for her to wear and/or use the night of. ...but you aren't obligated to do that either.