One of my cousins is getting married and is going through the wedding preparation process at the same time I am. My mother has to hear about all of this on Facebook & from her brother (my cousin's stepfather). So now my mother is getting pushy with me to "outdo" my cousin. Honestly? My cousin (who is generally pretty spoiled) probably has a bigger budget than what I have, but I don't care. It's her wedding, not mine, and I'm trying not to let it affect my planning. But my mom's turning into a royal nag about it. How do I deal with this?